win­ning traits you need to know

Australian Natural Bodz - - Self Developement Series Part ONe - Pho­tog­ra­phy by Steve Jones

Yin and yang are com­ple­men­tary (rather than op­pos­ing) forces that in­ter­act to form a dy­namic sys­tem in which the whole is greater than the as­sem­bled parts. Hence you can see that suc­cess can’t ex­ist with­out fail­ure! And fail­ure can’t ex­ist with­out suc­cess. Win­ning can’t ex­ist with­out los­ing. Is this start­ing to make a lot more sense to you now? Winners/suc­cess­ful peo­ple all have a clear un­der­stand­ing of this. They know that fail­ure is not per­ma­nent; it’s a tem­po­rary glitch in their life cy­cle. I will share a lit­tle per­sonal story; I have com­peted in over 100 body­build­ing events in my life. Yes I started com­pet­ing at the age of 13 as a teenager. Did I win every show? No way. I got placed or of­ten did not even make the top 3 in many shows I en­tered. How­ever, I learned more from the shows I lost than the ones I won! Why? Be­cause I took the time to an­a­lyze and re­view why I win or place. Where is the times I won, I just ended up bask­ing in the glory and didn’t think about any­thing else. I feel sad for many com­peti­tors these days be­cause they strug­gle with fail­ure. When they don’t win, it kills them men­tally. Why, be­cause they don’t un­der­stand dual- ity in life. Suc­cess and fail­ure are one, and one can’t ex­ist with­out the other. Just like night and day, hot and cold, pos­i­tive and neg­a­tive. In­stead many choose the blame game, ohh it must have been the judges, or pol­i­tics or some other ob­scure rea­son cre­ated in their mind. This is ex­tremely sad be­cause this type of mind­set never truly re­al­izes suc­cess, and will al­ways be tor­mented and never at peace. So the first step in un­leash­ing the winners mind set is ac­cept­ing the du­al­ity of life. Suc­cess and fail­ure are not per­ma­nent, you will win some, lose some. But more im­por­tantly you learn from it all and move for­ward. And on the topic of mov­ing for­ward lets jump to the next im­por­tant trait.

Let­ting go, and not be­ing so sen­si­tive!

We live in a v ery touchy world, peo­ple are so sen­si­tiv e. In fact it’s hard to say any­thing with­out some­one tak­ing it the wrong way and get­ting of­fended. Un­for­tu­nately so­cial me­dia has fu­eled this fire. First off, and this is ex­tremely ray­mond im­por­tantlim if you want to de­velop yourself as a per­son and a suc­cess­ful one at that. LET GO of want­ing con­tin­ual ap­proval - and stop be­ing so damn sen­si­tive. You will never be able to please every­one so stop try­ing, not every­one is go­ing to like or agree with your life­style. One of the most myth­i­cal words of the dig­i­tal gen­er­a­tion is “Haters” get this clear, just be­cause some­one does not like some­thing does not mean they hate it. In the per­fect world every­one would like ev­ery­thing, but the world is not per­fect and never will be. Peo­ple are not per­fect, so it’s time to let go and stop be­ing so sen­si­tive. Time to move on, chill out and let go.

Stop fol­low­ing, be­come the au­then­tic you

Jump back throught his­tory and take a look at one of the most com­mon traits of suc­cess­ful peo­ple. They never fol­lowed, they were unique, creative in­di­vid­u­als that lived their life as they wanted not through oth­ers or to blend or fit in to a cur­rent trend. Peo­ple in­volved in the Fit­ness In­dus­try are some of the worst abusers of fol­low­ing with­out think­ing. I guess much of this habit is cre­ated by so­cial me­dia, it’s founded on “fol­low­ing” so we are brain­washed into fol­low­ing oothers or trends. A clas­sic ex­am­ple, mil­lions of novice gym go­ers around the world mind­lessly pick­ing heavy weights up off the ground and bang­ing them onto the floor – other­wise known as dead­lifts! The same ap­plies to squats, now squat­ting is no doubt a great ex­er­cise but when per­formed with weights that are be­yond the realms of what one can lift it is a highly dan­ger­ous move­ment for both the back and knees. But hey, who care be­cause it’s the thing to do! Post­ing PB’s (Per­sonal Bests) while squat­ting down with a 2 inch range of move­ment is hardly a PB, or smash­ing you butt into a weight bench be­hind you. Let’s put all of this into per­spec­tive, do­ing dan­ger­ous move­ments just to fit in. That’s all it is. Plain and sim­ple. It does not mat­ter if the move­ments are to­tally coun­ter­pro­duc­tive to the goal at hand as most peo­ple per­form­ing them are com­pet­ing in events judged on aes­thet­ics not strength! So what’s the point in putting yourself at risk. I find it mind bog­gling that this “fol­low me” men­tal­ity is not only lim­ited to younger gen­er­a­tions. Many of the old school train­ers have fallen vic­tim to the herd men­tal­ity. A num­ber of times I posted warn­ings on so­cial me­dia about do­ing this sort of stuff and some of the very peo­ple that prob­a­bly read my posts con­tin­ued and ended up tear­ing ham­strings, do­ing their backs, knees, hips. Wow ,

the price some peo­ple pay to sup­pos­edly fit in! Time to be­come the au­then­tic you, some­one that thinks be­fore they fol­low. The you that does not fol­low the herd, some­one that is truly unique, creative. Learn a les­son from the leagues of suc­cess­ful peo­ple in the past and present, they are all suc­cess­ful be­cause they choose not to fol­low, they choose to be dif­fer­ent. They are true to them­selves and au­then­tic.

Learn to ap­pre­ci­ate, give grat­i­tude

Sadly enough ap­pre­ci­a­tion for this new gen­er­a­tion has now be­come en­ti­tle­ment. Some­one does some­thing nice for some­one or goes out of their way and the re­ceiver does not pay thanks as they feel en­ti­tled! How bizarre is that. I see this hap­pen all the time, in fact I ex­pe­ri­ence it first­hand. I per­son­ally spend count­less hours pro­mot­ing ath­letes in my own time, which I don’t re­ally need to do. I do it be­cause I can’t change my na­ture, I am in­her­ently a giv­ing, gen­er­ous per­son. Do I get thanks for it? Some­times, but most times it never hap­pens. Pho­tog­ra­phy is a good ex­am­ple, I could spend an hour edit­ing a photo of some­one to make it pop and look re­ally im­pres­sive. I ob­vi­ously add my photo by “Steve Jones” as a credit just as all pho­tog­ra­phers do. Then I find some­one has chopped the credit and re­posted on so­cial me­dia with no ref­er­ence to me be­ing the pho­tog­ra­pher. This hap­pens numer­ous times, I have learned to lower my ex­pec­ta­tions so it does not bother me, but in prin­ci­ple it’s al­ways nice to be ac­knowl­edged for your work. It’s kind of funny be­cause those that do this love to get thou­sands of likes on the photo but of­fer no credit to the creator of the im­age! Strange. So­cial me­dia is full of peo­ple that over value their own time or prod­uct and un­der value every­one elses! Suc­cess­ful peo­ple do NOT think this way full stop. It’s dis­re­spect­ful and ul­ti­mately those that act this way never suc­ceed. Then there are those that al­ways have a sob story, no­body has helped them, they play the vic­tim cards all the time. They keep re­mind­ing every­one they are a self made suc­cess! That state­ment alone de­fies logic and all laws of physics and na­ture. Let’s be hon­est no­body makes it on their own. A suc­cess­ful busi­ness needs cus­tomers, a con­tract man­u­fac­turer, mar­ket­ing team and so on. It’s a team ef­fort. The “I did it all on my own” men­tal­ity shows all the signs of a mega­lo­ma­niac. Google that one. Peo­ple with this mind­set prob­a­bly don’t even thank their mum and dad! Ap­pre­ci­a­tion costs noth­ing to give; it’s an ac­knowl­edge­ment and proves to the world that you have not be­come a vic­tim to your own ego. This is just one ex­am­ple, but the mes­sage is learn to ap­pre­ci­ate ev­ery­thing you have in life at this cur­rent mo­ment in time, be­cause you never know when it could be taken away. Ap­pre­ci­ate your part­ner, your friends, fam­ily, house, car, all your pos­ses­sions. Ap­pre­ci­a­tion and grat­i­tude are com­mon traits for most of the suc­cess­ful peo­ple that I have had the plea­sure of meet­ing. De­spite their level of suc­cess they are al­ways ap­pre­cia­tive and show grat­i­tude to those that have helped them along their life jour­ney.

In­ten­tion sets di­rec­tion

Do you know what you re­ally want out of life and where you are go­ing? How many times have you got up in the morn­ing and just thought this is go­ing to be a great day, and low and be­hold it was a great day! Why? Be­cause you in­tended it to be. Ev­ery­thing starts with in­ten­tion, if your in­ten­tions are pos­i­tive and good 95% of the time the out­come will be good. If you get up in the morn­ing and say, oh to­day is go­ing to be mis­er­able be­cause the weather is lousy what do you think the out­come with be? Not great. You can eas­ily har­ness the power of good in­ten­tion any­time you de­sire. It’s your in­ner su­per power that will make your life a whole lot more re­ward­ing and hap­pier. Start when you get up in the morn­ing, set your in­ten­tions. Say to yourself “to­day is go­ing to be an awe­some day, I am go­ing to get so much from this day”. Be­fore you head to the gym, set your in­ten­tion to have the best most in­tense work­out in your life. If you are a Fit­ness Com­peti­tor set your in­ten­tions the morn­ing of the show to have fun on stage, be con­fi­dent and en­joy the mo­ment. Remember in­ten­tion de­ter­mines di­rec­tion and out­come. In fact this very method forms the foun­da­tion on most of the fancy pants self help pro­grams that many folk pay thou­sands of dol­lars for! Even re­li­gion utilizes a sim­i­lar con­cept, its called prayer! Hon­estly this is a true su­per power that all suc­cess­ful peo­ple use on a day to day ba­sis and now you can use it to su­per charge your life. It makes such a big dif­fer­ence, as pos­i­tive in­ten­tion sets your in­ner per­sonal suc­cess com­pass that guides your ship. Why not jump aboard and make your life a voy­age of hap­pi­ness, self devel­op­ment and on­go­ing suc­cess. I hope this short ar­ti­cle has pro­vided some in­sight into the traits of suc­cess­ful peo­ple, this is part one of a series of ar­ti­cles I will present on win­ning, suc­cess and self devel­op­ment.

Photo by Steve Jones

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