Can I have it?
CAN I have it? A phrase heard by nearly all parents while out at the shops or from the back seat of the car.
Many young children will persist in asking the question after the first time it is answered. Parents are often left pulling out their hair as they try to cope with the pestering of their child who won’t take no for an answer. WHY DO CHILDREN PESTER? Your child is surrounded by a world of new and wonderful items and objects which they will want to experience.
It is natural for your child to want to try something and to have an interest in the latest shiny thing. It is hard for them to understand the object might not be appropriate for them or it costs money. It is hard for them to accept no is the answer. IT’S EASY JUST TO GIVE IN, BUT TRY NOT TO A child who is consistently pestering you can be irritating and in public areas embarrassing.
This makes it easy to give in and just say yes as it provides instant relief and ends the pestering and the temper tantrums that can accompany them.
But this is not a good idea as it will teach your child that pestering works. WHAT SHOULD YOU DO WHEN THEY PESTER YOU?
The most important thing is to stay calm and let your child know that you won’t answer them until they show good manners.
Try not to say yes or no until your child has stopped pestering you and is instead being reasonable. If you say no, make sure you stay strong and do not give in if they pester you again.
It is also a good idea to distract your child after you say no, take their mind off what they wanted and concentrate on something else eg: “can you help me find the milk that we buy?”.
If you’re struggling to stay calm when you child is questioning you repeatedly, stop and count to 10. ARE THERE ANY PREVENTATIVE STEPS: Praise your child when they show good behaviour and to offer healthy rewards instead of junk food when out at the shops. Also lay down ground rules before you go to the shops so your child knows what behaviour is expected and try to limit the amount of toy and junk food advertising they see. You could even chat to them about advertising.
Call your local WBHHS child health team on: Gayndah – 4161 3571, Mundubbera – 4165 5222, Monto – 4166 9300, Biggenden – 4127 6400, Eidsvold – 4165 7100.