How is it go­ing, self?

The most im­por­tant re­la­tion­ship is the one you have with you

Central and North Burnett Times - - MIND - Nick Ben­nett

AFEW years ago there was a lot of com­men­tary about the con­cept of six de­grees of sep­a­ra­tion. As the story went there are only six peo­ple be­tween us and Kevin Ba­con. In other words, your ex­panded re­la­tion­ships, net­work or con­nec­tions sup­pos­edly can be con­nected to Kevin.

Much of my work takes me into or­gan­i­sa­tions where I pro­vide ser­vices as an ex­ec­u­tive and per­for­mance coach or fa­cil­i­ta­tor. My good for­tune is that it takes me into in­cred­i­bly di­verse are­nas and in­tro­duces me to peo­ple from every walk of life do­ing their best to de­liver a plan, goal or strat­egy in the best way they know how for the area and the peo­ple for which they are re­spon­si­ble.

Be­lieve me, I am con­tin­u­ally sur­prised how some­one like me – who has taken an in­cred­i­bly dog­legged path through a range of ca­reers and doesn’t know much re­ally – gets to en­gage with and is wel­comed into these busi­nesses and by these great peo­ple.

What it comes down to is that ev­ery­thing that has hap­pened seems to boil down to one sim­ple thing: care in re­la­tion­ships, whether that is the re­la­tion­ships that we have di­rectly or whether that is in the re­la­tion­ships that we as­sist oth­ers to de­velop with them­selves or oth­ers in their per­sonal or pro­fes­sional lives.

Think about that for a mo­ment. We are all con­nected in some way and at some point there is the pos­si­bil­ity of those con­nec­tions com­ing to­gether. For us that has meant that rather than the bulk of our en­gage­ments com­ing from re­sponses to scopes of work or that we have ten­dered for op­por­tu­ni­ties, peo­ple have ad­vo­cated for us to be en­gaged or rec­om­mended to their friends that they come and have a con­ver­sa­tion with us. That’s the power of re­la­tion­ships.

What about for you? What are you do­ing to re­alise the power in your own re­la­tion­ships? Who do you ad­vo­cate for and who ad­vo­cates for you? Make no bones about it, noth­ing hap­pens with­out a re­la­tion­ship of some sort. What can you do to change, re­in­force, de­velop or en­hance your re­la­tion­ships?

And be­fore you an­swer those ques­tions, an­swer this one first. The most im­por­tant re­la­tion­ship you’ll ever have is with your­self. How’s that go­ing and how much care are you giv­ing that one?

So back to Kevin. I am still work­ing out which six re­la­tion­ships get me to him so if you know some­one who knows some­one who knows some­one who knows Kevin, let me know. Nick Ben­nett is a fa­cil­i­ta­tor, per­for­mance coach and part­ner of Minds Aligned: www.mind­saligned.com.au

We are all con­nected in some way and at some point there is the pos­si­bil­ity of those con­nec­tions com­ing to­gether.

PHOTO: WILLY SANJUAN/AP

◗ Re­la­tion­ships are crit­i­cal in hu­man life, as ev­i­denced by the vi­ral six de­grees of sep­a­ra­tion to Kevin Ba­con ex­er­cise of a few years ago.

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