In­volve­ment of grand­par­ents will vary greatly

Central and North Burnett Times - - YOUR SAY -

THIS week we’re con­tin­u­ing our look into the im­por­tant role grand­par­ents play as pos­i­tive con­trib­u­tors to our fam­i­lies.

In our pre­vi­ous col­umn we ex­am­ined some of the gen­eral as­pects of be­ing a grand­par­ent, from both their per­spec­tive and from the par­ents’ per­spec­tives, in­clud­ing the ad­just­ment for first-time grand­par­ents.

In this col­umn we will be dis­cussing the more spe­cific as­pects of grand­par­ent­ing on a day-to-day ba­sis, in­clud­ing how in­volved grand­par­ents should be and what bound­aries grand­par­ents should set. HOW IN­VOLVED SHOULD YOU BE AS A GRAND­PAR­ENT?

This will vary. Some grand­par­ents are still work­ing, oth­ers are re­tired. Some grand­par­ents live nearby, some live far away.

For those grand­par­ents who work or live far away, make use of tech­nol­ogy.

Phone calls are still great and now video calls are af­ford­able thanks to mod­ern tech­nol­ogy via WhatsApp, Facetime, Skype etc.

For some grand­par­ents, they may have a dif­fi­cult re­la­tion­ship with their own child that lim­its ac­cess.

While this is dif­fi­cult, a grand­child en­ter­ing the scene is a great rea­son for ‘peace talks’ and try­ing to bring the fam­ily back to­gether.

There are also other con­sid­er­a­tions, in­clud­ing your own health, per­sonal com­mit­ments and hob­bies, main­tain­ing per­sonal and part­ner time.

Just re­mem­ber, you shouldn’t mea­sure suc­cess by the time spent, but rather by en­sur­ing you’re the num­ber one sup­porter of your grand­chil­dren and their par­ents.

DEFIN­ING YOUR BOUND­ARIES

It is a great idea to sit down with your grand­child’s par­ents in a calm en­vi­ron­ment to dis­cuss ex­pec­ta­tions re­gard­ing your bound­aries and the role you will play.

Be open about how you feel and if it is too much for you or if you want more time with your grand­chil­dren.

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