Involvement of grandparents will vary greatly
THIS week we’re continuing our look into the important role grandparents play as positive contributors to our families.
In our previous column we examined some of the general aspects of being a grandparent, from both their perspective and from the parents’ perspectives, including the adjustment for first-time grandparents.
In this column we will be discussing the more specific aspects of grandparenting on a day-to-day basis, including how involved grandparents should be and what boundaries grandparents should set. HOW INVOLVED SHOULD YOU BE AS A GRANDPARENT?
This will vary. Some grandparents are still working, others are retired. Some grandparents live nearby, some live far away.
For those grandparents who work or live far away, make use of technology.
Phone calls are still great and now video calls are affordable thanks to modern technology via WhatsApp, Facetime, Skype etc.
For some grandparents, they may have a difficult relationship with their own child that limits access.
While this is difficult, a grandchild entering the scene is a great reason for ‘peace talks’ and trying to bring the family back together.
There are also other considerations, including your own health, personal commitments and hobbies, maintaining personal and partner time.
Just remember, you shouldn’t measure success by the time spent, but rather by ensuring you’re the number one supporter of your grandchildren and their parents.
DEFINING YOUR BOUNDARIES
It is a great idea to sit down with your grandchild’s parents in a calm environment to discuss expectations regarding your boundaries and the role you will play.
Be open about how you feel and if it is too much for you or if you want more time with your grandchildren.