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LOVE ADVICE FROM OUR GUY GURU, LOGAN HILL
Q. I’VE BEEN DATING THIS GUY FOR FIVE MONTHS, AND HE’S GREAT – SO CARING AND ALWAYS THERE FOR ME. I WANT TO THANK HIM! THE PROBLEM IS, HE’S WRITING HIS THESIS AND SHORT ON FREE TIME. THERE ARE ALL THESE CONCERTS I WANT TO TAKE HIM TO BUT HE DOESN’T HAVE TIME… AND MY LINGERIE AND STRIPTEASE ROUTINE IS GETTING OLD. WHAT DO I DO?
A. Reading your sweet question, I’m struck by how easy guys have it and how little women expect! Being nice and decent was once the bare minimum, not a cause for special thanks, much less a striptease. A chill dinner is great, but the best way to thank a partner for being decent and kind is to be that way right back.
Q. My boyfriend shows zero signs that he’s cheating, but I find it weird that when I want to use his phone for something, he says no. Does this sound like a guy who’s cheating and wants to hide his phone? Or is this normal?
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Q. We’re planning a wedding, and it’s all my fiancé and I talk about now. I was never the girl who daydreamed about this, so planning is a chore. How do we plan a wedding without letting it take over our relationship?
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Q. I WANT TO HELP MY BF PAY OFF HIS HELP DEBT. I MAKE MORE THAN I NEED – AND HE DOESN’T MAKE ENOUGH TO PUT A DENT IN IT. I WANT TO HELP AND I TRUST HIM. MY FRIENDS ARE AGAINST IT. SHOULD I HELP HIM?
A. It’s your money, but I agree with your friends. Married or not, it’s not wise to pay off a partner’s debt unless it’s part of a strategy longterm. If you two are planning your life together, suggest that you plan your financial future rather than offering cash. As part of that, paying off his debt might make sense for you. Or not.
Q. I’m engaged but I’m having this major flirtationship with this guy at work who’s also engaged. We’ve kissed in the break room, but that’s it. We’ve never even had a one-onone conversation. It’s completely a sexual connection. I want to be with my fiancé and I know our relationship is different because he and I actually talk to each other. But what does it mean that I’m drawn to kissing this other guy? And how do I get out of this situation before I screw up my engagement?
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Grand gestures are overrated. A casual cold one shows him you care.