‘ I HAVE TWO MUMS’
BRENNA HARDING, 21:
Brenna was born into activism thanks to growing up with two mums
‘ MARDI GRAS was kind of like Christmas; we went every year and I’d be in the parade, and we’d watch the drag shows. Those things coloured my childhood, but all in all it was very normal.
My mum was single when she had me. When I was f ive, she met my other mum, Jackie. She said to me, “Jack is going to move in. Do you want her to be my roommate or be your other mother?” and I said, “other mother”. That became my family unit.
As I got older, people had preconceptions about what it was to be gay and assumed that because my parents were gay, I was gay. But I’d been raised to have a real backbone about it and to understand that there was nothing wrong with my family and it was someone else’s problem if they thought that.
Having samesex parents meant I was born already having to be an ally to the queer community – I didn’t have choice in that, and believe nobody should have a choice in that; we shouldn’t get to choose whether or not we’re going to accept people for who they are. I was honoured to have that in my life so early because I could see people as individuals, value their differences and their diversity. I didn’t judge them based on stereotypes. I understood what discrimination was and the struggles that my parents and other people in the community had been through to be accepted, so I never wanted to inf lict that upon anyone.
Believing all children should have a mother and a father figure is unrealistic. I think there are very few families who do have a mother and a father figure; families are incredibly different and it’s what creates diversity within our society and makes us interesting. I think the most important thing about parents is that they love their children – I had a very loved childhood. That should be the priority rather than gender or sex or sexuality or race, etc.
When I have kids, I hope that they are able to explore who they are, without feeling limited by labels or by how people might judge them, and to feel freedom in that respect and pride in who they choose to be. I hope that with that comes a valuing of kindness and caring for others, empathy and acceptance of other people’s journeys.’