Sophie Monk ‘I’ve never had love like this’
SOPHIE MONK HAS FINALLY FOUND HER HAPPILY EVER AFTER – ON NATIONAL TELEVISION, NATURALLY. THE SELF- CONFESSED ' LOVER' SHARES HER NEWFOUND LESSONS IN LOVE WITH COSMO'S SHARI NEMENTZIK
There was some major eyerolling from my side when I heard that Sophie Monk, 37, was going to be the next Bachelorette. Although I’m not proud of it, I was hardly alone in my thinking. How could someone so successful, hilarious and pretty damn gorgeous not be able to find love? Shouldn’t the title be given to a girl- next- door-type like Georgia Love and Sam Frost? Sophie is the f irst celebrity Bachelorette – ever – so it’s no surprise eyebrows were raised. But it didn’t take me long to realise that Sophie is exactly like the Bachelorettes before her. She’s a woman who has been burnt by past loves and wants to share her life with someone special. And if you, like me, thought that someone with her status has access to an even bigger sea of fish than Becky down the road, you’re wrong. ‘ If I go to bars or anything, I only get
cocky people coming up to me because they’ve got the confidence to and they’re not the right people that I really want to meet,’ she says. ‘ I can’t go on dating apps either because it will be printed everywhere, so I feel like I have missed out on meeting someone who cares about me for me.’
Sophie has dated her fair share of highprofile men, including Benji Madden and Jason Statham, but f inding her partner in crime for life has been somewhat arduous. Enter: The Bachelorette. ‘ My mum actually suggested it,’ says Sophie. ‘ She was like, “Look at the success rate!”’ Sophie’s mum was right. ‘I’m majorly in love,’ beams Sophie. ‘ It [ The Bachelorette] has been the best thing I’ve ever done. This is the happiest I’ve ever been in my life; I am really f *cking happy.’ At the end of the day, isn’t that something we all hope for, regardless of fame and fortune? ‘I think we all want a happy ending,’ says Sophie.
‘ Everyone needs a partner in crime.’
How would you describe being in love? ‘Oh it is the best. It doesn’t matter what you are going through, if you are in love, that stress does not worry you as much.’
What was it like dating a billion guys at once on The Bachelorette?
‘ Standing at the red carpet on the first night, I was nervous. I thought, What have I done? I am going to kill my career and embarrass my family.
But as soon as I met all the guys, I was like, “Bang, we’ve got it”. It was so good for my selfesteem as you’re the only girl there and they are all into you – they have to be, there’s no one else. It was awesome.’ Did you find it weird that a whole bunch of guys automatically wanted to be your boyfriend?
‘ Yeah it is weird, but I get to know people really quickly and I like to think I’m a good judge of character. Not with guys usually in the past, but on the show I really focused on looking for the right thing. There’s always going to be guys [whose motivations aren’t pure because] it’s a TV show, but I would say the majority were there for the right reasons. It was cast really well.’
How hard was it to send men home every single week?
‘ So hard! I hate breaking up with someone – I used to just hope that they would break up with me. I had to learn to be stronger on the show. You just have to do it; there’s limited time.’
‘ YOU HAVE TO GO I NTO A RELATIONSHIP KNOWING HOW YOU WANT I T TO BE’
What do you look for in a guy?
‘ I love someone who makes me laugh. I don’t care what they look like; laughter is so hot.’
What do you think is your biggest downfall when it comes to love and relationships?
‘ I think I tend to go for guys who just like me, instead of me being into them, and I’ve stayed in those relationships for far too long. I was too patient with people when I’d know the relationship was dying. Some guys wouldn’t treat me very well but I stayed in it and would lose my selfesteem. There have been times when I would change and try to f it in with what a guy wanted for me, but I’ve now learnt that guys won’t ever change, ever, and neither should we.’ What would you say are your greatest qualities in a relationship? ‘ I would say I am quite generous and I am such a lover as well; I love loving.’
Everyone has annoying traits in a relationship – what’s yours?
‘ I am so messy and disorganised and I can’t cook or clean. But I do make a mean baked beans on toast.’
Have you ever been cheated on?
‘ Yes, and it sucks. That hurts your selfesteem, especially when the woman they cheated on you with looks opposite to you.’
Have you ever cheated?
‘ No. I can’t be bothered ( laughs).’
What lessons have you learnt since being on The Bachelorette?
‘ I think you have to go into the relationship knowing how you want it to be, and you’ve got to be you from day one because they have to accept you for you. You’ve got to put your foot down and stand up for yourself as well. There were times when I wasn’t super happy with myself, and it’s hard to love someone when you don’t really love yourself as much. I’m not saying that I love myself but, you know, I care about myself.’
Looking back on your life, do you have any regrets?
‘ No, because I am so happy now. If I didn’t go through a bit of unhappiness, I wouldn’t be so grateful for this love and know the importance of it.’
What advice would you give Cosmo readers when it comes to love?
‘ I think you’ve just got to be true to yourself and don’t waste your time. If you are in something that feels like it’s not working, it’s not going to get better.’