HOW CAN I HELP A FRIEND?
If you think someone close to you is in an abusive relationship or any other violent situation, here’s what you can do:
If you believe someone’s safety is at immediate risk, call Triple 0 and follow their instructions. Take every precaution to ensure you do not put yourself or your friend at more risk.
If you’re worried about someone, ask a general question like, ‘ How are things at home?’ Offer support like, ‘ If you ever need anything, I’m here for you.’ Your kindness will be remembered.
If they confide in you, listen to them, and believe them. Being believed and not judged is more powerful than you can imagine.
Ask them what would be helpful for them at this point in time. Remember to be patient. No matter what you think is best, they need to be in charge of their lives.
Tell them they are not to blame for the violence and see if they need help getting any information that will assist them. You can even offer to ring 1800RESPECT on their behalf if they’d like.
‘I’ M PASSIONATE ABOUT ENDING VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN BECAUSE I HAVE A SISTER WHOSE LIFE I WANT TO SEE FLOURISH AND THRIVE IN A HEALTHY ENVIRONMENT. OVER MY DEAD BODY WILL THAT BE DESTROYED BY SOMEONE WHO ABUSES HER IN THE NAME OF “LOVE”.’
– Montaigne, artist