No-BS responses to questions you can only ask Cosmo
Do I have to tell my doc my sexual orientation?
You don’t have to, but in this case, sharing is caring for your girl parts. ‘Your sexual practices may influence how your doctor does your exam,’ says obgyn Dr Allison Hill. For example, a gynaecologist may use a smaller speculum on a lesbian who doesn’t engage in penetrative sex. It’s also worth speaking up about it unprompted since, strangely enough, your doc probably won’t ask. A new study published in JAMA Internal Medicine revealed that while nearly 80 per cent of doctors said they didn’t think patients would want to disclose their sexual orientation, in fact, only 10 per cent of people said they would refuse to give it if they were asked.
I know I’m supposed to pee after sex, but what about after using my vibrator?
Yes. Just like a penis, a vibe can push any bacteria on your skin (or the toy itself) into your urethra, where it can cause a urinary tract infection, says Dr Hill. If your bladder is full when you’re buzzing, you’re even more likely to get a UTI, because any germ buildup hasn’t been flushed out since your last pee. The simple solution? Go to the bathroom before your session and right after you’re done. Clean your toy after each use with mild soap and warm water or an antibacterial toy cleaner, so you’re less likely to bring about the burn.
Why can I not stop talking – I mean, it’s serious TMI – after sex?
Blame it on evolution: we’re designed to blab our deepest, darkest feelings postdeed to facilitate attachment, which helps ensure the survival of our offspring. Chat away – just don’t go overboard with your confessions if you are sleeping with someone new. ‘Talking about emotions after sex should be reciprocal and gradual,’ says Gurit Birnbaum, who has studied postsex oversharing. Too much too soon can backfire. If your partner’s response seems meh, it might be a sign that he’s less interested in taking things to a deeper level. Some men aren’t quick to discuss feelings… Others just need recovery time.
How do I get my guy to go down on me more often?
One new study found that while oral sex on a woman is one of the most common predictors of orgasm (love you, clitoral stimulation), it’s also one of the least practiced sexual acts among couples. The encouraging news: ‘A guy is more apt to try something if it’s fun and he knows you’re going to get pleasure from it,’ says sex therapist Dawn Michael. So turn foreplay into a hot game for everyone involved. When it’s your turn, you get to have whatever you ask done to you, and then on his turn, he gets the same deal. When he’s downtown, be sure to show him how much you like it through your moans. He’ll be so turned on by turning you on, he might just take up residency there. Not a bad thought…
NOW, IF ONLY HIS HEAD COULD DO A 180-DEGREE TURN.