67 % more sex: Just add these bedroom beats...
What’s more important than a hot position in bed? A good beat, baby! Learn the tempo technique that will have you hitting a high note every time
Whether your boo is a brand-new mate or so familiar you could sketch his nether regions from memory, you want to establish one crucial thing during sex: a flow that can get you both off. Research shows that rhythmic stimulation – aka hitting the same spots at a consistent speed and pace – can heighten your senses and focus during the deed. Grab your guy and start perfecting your sexual timing with these pointers. SYNC YOUR LIBIDOS
To find bedroom synchronicity, you’ll first have to choose a good time. For men, testosterone builds up overnight – which is why they’re usually all about a.m. sex, says Alisa Vitti, a functional nutritionist. Women’s hormones, on the other hand, fluctuate within our menstrual cycles. On the days you’re ovulating, estrogen and testosterone are at peak levels, fuelling your desire and downthere lubrication, says Vitti, so that’s the optimal time to be on the same libidinous page as your man. At other moments,
compromise is key. Try having sex on a strollinlatetowork weekday morning when you have the energy to put something besides a muffin inside you. The next day, do it after work, and set the scene right when you get home, suggets sex therapist Holly Richmond. ‘Light some candles and have a glass of wine.’
A little flirting also goes a long way. ‘My husband is a “Let’s have sex after we get in bed” person,’ says Gaby, 38. She helps him get on her earlier horny schedule by warming him up during dinner. ‘I’ll kiss him while he’s washing dishes or bend over a lot while I’m cooking,’ she says. Over time, such small, suggestive moves can help line up your sex drives.
MATCH YOUR BREATHING
Focusing on your breath keeps you connected to and in control of your body. In the same way, syncing your airflow pattern with your dude’s can help you regulate the pace of your romps. Start in a tight position, like spooning, where you can easily coordinate breaths, then have him thrust to the speed of your inhales and exhales, suggests Richmond. If he breaks that pace and starts wildly jackhammering, reach back and grab his hips to direct him.
Staying in stride is the trick to crossing the finish line at the same time. Need help? Simulate your clitoris to the same beat. ‘I’ll get in cowgirl and touch myself as my boyfriend moves inside me,’ says Laura, 27. ‘It always sends me over the edge.’
ADD MORE RHYTHM
Picture pushing someone on a swing for a long time. After some time, the movement becomes so automatic, you lose your sense of awareness and just focus on the pushpushpush, right? Well, the same repeated backandforth during sex is what leads to that trancelike state that moves all other thoughts out of your mind, making it easier to orgasm. Listening to music can help you nail this swing method (as we’re calling it) because you can time your thrusts to the beat. Plus, women ranked good tunes as arousing as hearing Xrated moaning or visualising fantasy scenarios, according to one study. Other research shows that the rhythm of a sexy song can help keep your mind in the moment. ‘Music helps me connect with my emotions more during sex,’ says Angela, 29. (Drake tops her list.)
Still having trouble staying in tune? This can lend a buzzing hand: The OhMiBod Club Vibe 3.OH ($169.95, Lovehoney.com.au) has a ‘club mode’ setting that pulses to ambient noise.
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