Find the edge of glory!
Want to spice up your sex life or solo sesh? We have just the thing that’ll really push you over the edge...
IN MOST CASES, BEING A TEASE IS JUST MEAN. The one time it’s anything but? During sex. In fact, teasing out pleasure can actually lead to an orgasm moreoverthetop than a Cardi B verse.
Enter edging, the practice of purposefully building up to and then delaying a climax, so that when you finally do let go, the bliss is extra intense. ‘It creates anticipation, and when you draw that out, you’re able to savour the final moment so much more,’ explains sex and relationships coach Dawn Serra. Physically, prolonging a release means your body has ample time to direct blood f low to the nerves and muscles in your pelvis and genitals, making those areas hypersensitive... and your finish feel even more amazing.
Edging also delivers the coveted perk of more time in the sack. One study found that women wish they could add nearly eight more minutes on to the average 11 to 13 minutes of foreplay and about seven more on to the average seven to eight minutes of intercourse. And since it takes most guys around two to four minutes of PintheV action to climax and women often at least 10, edging can be a game changer.
Before you attempt to stretch things out, know this: ‘Edging with a partner is tricky because they need to pause exactly when you need them to,’ says sex therapist Vanessa Marin, founder of Finishing School, an online orgasm course for women. ‘Lingering for even a second longer can cause you to orgasm.’ To get it right, during foreplay, ask your partner to pleasure you down there using their fingers or tongue in a pattern (sidetoside, upanddown, or circular motions) that feels good. When you sense you’re getting close, give a clear verbal signal, like ‘wait,’ ‘stop,’ or ‘ohmygodthat’s sogoodbutpleasehold.’ A few seconds later, have them start again, but this time with a different movement pattern than before, suggests Serra. (You can return the favour by bringing your S.O. to the brink and back too.)
Keep up this stopandgo to reboot and boost your arousal, and when you can’t hold out any longer, let your mate bring you all the way to orgasm. Or switch to intercourse, slowing down on thrusting when one of you comes close to peaking, says Marin. The explosive ending will be totally worth it.