Honest answers to your most private questions
Q. Any ideas for a role-play outfit that’s sexy but not cheesy?
A. When acting out sexual fantasies, it’s less about how you look, and more about how you own the persona. ‘You could be a nurse, truck driver, farmer – whatever!’ says Dr Jenni Skyler, a resident sexologist for adult retailer Adam & Eve. ‘Embody it with confidence and it won’t come across as cheesy.’ Have a look in your own closet to see if you can uncover a naughty alter ego. Or ask your partner if they have a specific fantasy, then use that for inspo. Last resort? New lace undies, you megababe, you.
Q. My BF smells kinda funky down there. How do I bring it up without major awkwardness?
A. Start subtly, suggests sex therapist Laura Berman. Mention how you have a sensitive nose, so it’s a turnon when he smells good all over. Or start moving your foreplay to the bath, where you can both suds up before go time. ‘If all that fails, you’ll need to be direct but kind,’ says Berman. Simply state: ‘Hey babe, I love touching you, but I think you need to clean yourself up down there. It’s smelling a little off.’ He might be temporarily offended, but he’ll get over it, especially if he wants you to keep going downtown.
Q. Is it possible to get my current STI status on my phone so I can show it to a new partner?
A. Yes. Many doctors’ offices have convenient online portals where you can access your test results, you see your records online, and some practices will send your STI info via email or an app, says obgyn Sherry Ross. You could also try Australian online sexual health clinic Stigma Health (Stigmahealth.com) where you can request a test online rather than have to visit your GP for a referral. This can make the safesex talk easier. As in, ‘I’ll show you mine if you show me yours.’
Q. What’s the best sex toy to gift the bride-to-be at a hens’ party?
A. The Satisfyer Pro Traveler ($69.95, Lovehoney.com.au) is a palmsize clitoral stimulator with 11 quiet pressure wave settings that’s ideal for solo and partnered play, especially during doggiestyle intercourse. It’s also sleek and small enough for you to slip into your carryon luggage if you’re travelling to the celebration... and for your friend to pack for her upcoming honeymoon. Instant win!
Q. My guy started taking a hair-loss supplement, and he’s lost his libido. Is there a connection?
A. If he’s taking an overthecounter kind, then likely no, says dermatologist Glynis Ablon. But if he’s popping prescription medication, it lowers his level of a potent male hormone. This can slow or stop hair loss, but it has also been linked to scary side effects like decreased libido, erectile dysfunction, and depression. See if your man will consider switching to a botanical supplement instead.
Q. Is there a hot spin on same-old missionary sex we can try tonight?
A. Take the position’s top perks – lots of eye contact and intimacy – and flip them to the side for allnew feels, suggests Skyler. From lying on your back, roll to one side, use a hand to prop your head up, and wrap your top leg around bae’s waist. Then have them straddle your bottom leg and begin thrusting. At this angle you’ll both still enjoy deep and intimate penetration.
Q. Whenever I orgasm, I sneeze! Huh?!
A. Oh, bless you – and your sexually induced sneezing, the legit term for an achoo during climax (not to be confused with honeymoon rhinitis, which is nasal congestion during sex). It’s thought to be caused by mixed neurological signals, says Nina Brochmann, coauthor of The Wonder Down Under: A User’s Guide to the Vagina. ‘Orgasms and sneezing are autonomic reflexes, so some people might do both at once because of a crosswiring mistake.’ Don’t worry, it’s no big deal... and you’re not allergic to pleasure!
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