When you first meet someone great, there’s a lot of ‘come meet my new BF or GF’ hangs – at birthday parties, bars, family functions, etc. You’re technically out together, but you’re not really spending the time with each other. It’s important to add some ‘just the two of us’ privacy into the mix so that you’re getting enough quality bonding time, which solidifies that you’re both choosing to face life (and all its events) as a united pair.
‘In the beginning of a relationship, we often have a lot of spontaneous desire,’ says Kerner. ‘But as things progress, you may have to generate some arousal before desire kicks in.’ Put some effort into ensuring your libidos stay in sync by slipping a sneaky note in bae’s wallet before they head out for the day, turning around and winking at them after kissing them goodbye, or pulling them back into bed on a lazy Sunday morning.
There’s a reason your team at work have regularly scheduled meetings. It’s a good opportunity for you and your co-workers to check in, speak up, and make plans for the future. Couples need them too, says Nagler. Plan a monthly catch-up session to compare calendars (and maybe plan a romantic vacay?) and share your thoughts on and expectations for the relationship (like what would have to happen in order for it to progress to the next step).