INTA & ROBERT
Married October 30, 1975, at a registry office; ceremony at Prince Alfred College Chapel, SA, on April 24, 1976
When did you meet?
We met by chance in the school staffroom in 1973. Bob was working on site as a dentist, and I was at the school for my last year at teachers college. I always tell people we’d never have met otherwise, as Bob was so not my type – I used to date more of an “arty”, not science, kind of person. Plus, all the newly graduated dentists already had dental nurses chasing them!
What were your first impressions?
Bob came across as someone who was easy to talk to, and gentle and kind. He loves to tell anyone who will listen that my tights were the first thing to catch his eye – they had bright beetles on them… very fashionable at the time!
…And then came marriage!
We dated over the next year and fell in love, and as I was sharing an inner city “mansion” with six to eight others, we decided to move in together. It was the ’70s and we were living an “alternative” life at the time. We decided we wanted to stay together, and on the spur of the moment made up our minds to secretly marry in a registry office and elope in a few weeks. After months of pressure from our families, we held a ceremony – without them knowing we had in fact been married for quite some time before!
How did life change after marriage?
With our marriage a secret, life didn’t change. I have a Latvian background so chose a Latvian wedding band, which I wore on my right hand, as is European custom. I was able to wear it without anyone knowing its significance.
What was the first year like?
After our first marriage, we bought a house together and life went on, other than being under pressure from our parents to get married!
How about the first 10 years?
We sold our first house, bought an apartment, then moved to a larger home as we planned on having three children. We had a budget of $70 a week for food and incidentals, spent weekends fixing up the house, and life revolved around family. I was then full-time mothering – one year we had three children at three different schools, so a lot of time was spent playing taxi! We learnt we could save a lot by doing things ourselves. I’d cut Bob’s hair and do my own streaks – we saved every penny when the kids were growing up.
What do you love about each other?
Bob still eats whatever I give him and never complains! We still love spending time together as a couple and as best friends on movie and dinner dates, still talking about anything and everything.
What’s different about your relationship?
As we don’t have any grandchildren yet, we’re back to the “before kids” phase – we can go away on holidays together and enrich our lives and relationship.