INTA & ROBERT

Mar­ried Oc­to­ber 30, 1975, at a registry of­fice; cer­e­mony at Prince Al­fred Col­lege Chapel, SA, on April 24, 1976

Cosmopolitan Bride (Australia) - - THE ARCHIVES -

When did you meet?

We met by chance in the school staffroom in 1973. Bob was work­ing on site as a den­tist, and I was at the school for my last year at teach­ers col­lege. I al­ways tell peo­ple we’d never have met other­wise, as Bob was so not my type – I used to date more of an “arty”, not sci­ence, kind of per­son. Plus, all the newly grad­u­ated den­tists al­ready had den­tal nurses chas­ing them!

What were your first im­pres­sions?

Bob came across as some­one who was easy to talk to, and gen­tle and kind. He loves to tell any­one who will lis­ten that my tights were the first thing to catch his eye – they had bright bee­tles on them… very fash­ion­able at the time!

…And then came mar­riage!

We dated over the next year and fell in love, and as I was shar­ing an in­ner city “man­sion” with six to eight oth­ers, we de­cided to move in to­gether. It was the ’70s and we were liv­ing an “al­ter­na­tive” life at the time. We de­cided we wanted to stay to­gether, and on the spur of the mo­ment made up our minds to se­cretly marry in a registry of­fice and elope in a few weeks. Af­ter months of pres­sure from our fam­i­lies, we held a cer­e­mony – with­out them know­ing we had in fact been mar­ried for quite some time be­fore!

How did life change af­ter mar­riage?

With our mar­riage a se­cret, life didn’t change. I have a Lat­vian back­ground so chose a Lat­vian wed­ding band, which I wore on my right hand, as is Euro­pean cus­tom. I was able to wear it with­out any­one know­ing its sig­nif­i­cance.

What was the first year like?

Af­ter our first mar­riage, we bought a house to­gether and life went on, other than be­ing un­der pres­sure from our par­ents to get mar­ried!

How about the first 10 years?

We sold our first house, bought an apart­ment, then moved to a larger home as we planned on hav­ing three chil­dren. We had a bud­get of $70 a week for food and in­ci­den­tals, spent week­ends fix­ing up the house, and life re­volved around fam­ily. I was then full-time moth­er­ing – one year we had three chil­dren at three dif­fer­ent schools, so a lot of time was spent play­ing taxi! We learnt we could save a lot by do­ing things our­selves. I’d cut Bob’s hair and do my own streaks – we saved ev­ery penny when the kids were growing up.

What do you love about each other?

Bob still eats what­ever I give him and never com­plains! We still love spend­ing time to­gether as a cou­ple and as best friends on movie and din­ner dates, still talk­ing about any­thing and ev­ery­thing.

What’s dif­fer­ent about your re­la­tion­ship?

As we don’t have any grand­chil­dren yet, we’re back to the “be­fore kids” phase – we can go away on hol­i­days to­gether and en­rich our lives and re­la­tion­ship.

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