227 The social media wedding commandments
The golden rules to make sure your #bigday shines just as bright as your newsfeed
THOU SHALT TELL LOVED ONES THE OLD-FASHIONED WAY
Your close friends and family shouldn’t have to find out your big news on their feeds – they deserve to hear it from you. You may want to tell loved ones to keep mum until you’ve managed to tell everyone you want to, so that you can be the first to share it on your socials. Remember, once it’s up, news spreads fast!
THOU SHALT USE THE APPROPRIATE PLATFORMS
Don’t share your engagement on business-related networks like LinkedIn. Instead, if you’re changing your name, wait until you’re married then take the opportunity to share the news with professional contacts. Till then, stick to the old faithfuls.
THOU SHALT NOT OVERSHARE
There’s no need to discuss the price of the ring or how many minutes ’til the day. Posting non-stop will eventually annoy some people, so save all those stories for chats with friends. People can also get fatigued with all the nuptial news and photos on their feeds, so keep posts sweet and simple.
THOU SHALT HAVE A #HASHTAG
Choosing a unique wedding hashtag before you announce the engagement is a great way to engage people from the start. Be sure to put the hashtag on display at your wedding – make a cute sign, print it on napkins or place it in picture frames.
THOU SHALT TELL PEOPLE HOW I FEEL
Some people don’t want their ceremony to be a sea of phones, so let guests know if you want your vows to be an “unplugged” moment. While it’s great that your loved ones want to capture every second, you’ve hired a professional for that, #amiright? It’s more than OK to ask guests politely to not post any pictures until you and your other half have shared the first one. Or, if you’re happy for people to post updates in real time on their socials, give them the heads-up!
THOU SHALT KEEP MY PINTEREST BOARD SACRED
Keep the element of surprise alive at your wedding by keeping your Pinterest wedding board secret. That way, you’ll avoid unsolicited advice like, “Are you sure you want to mix orange with fuchsia?”
THOU SHALT NOT (PUBLICALLY) COMPLAIN
Mother-in-law driving you mad? Bridesmaid-zilla issues? As annoying as all of this is – we hear ya! – it’s best to steer clear from venting on a public forum. No one wants negativity surrounding your big day.
THOU SHALT NOT BE ON THY PHONE ALL DAY
It’s your wedding, so enjoy the day and live in the moment with everybody around you. Put your phone away and have fun! You’ll have plenty of time to scroll through your hashtag and find all the right filters while you’re waiting to board your flight for your honeymoon. If you want to share updates in real time on the day, ask one of your trusted friends or a bridesmaid to help manage your Instagram. The golden take-away? Social media has created more excitement and buzz around weddings than ever before, so relax and have fun with it! Just remember, it should never overshadow those special IRL moments.