NO, says Dave Thornton, co-host of Hit Network’s Fifi, Dave & Fev
“A great man once said, ‘Plan for the best but expect the worst.’ Was it Confucius? It could’ve been Yogi Bear. Either way, it’s the best advice you can get for a wedding. That and ‘Say “yes” to anything the celebrant asks you.’ People want to plan for a perfect day but something’s always going to go wrong. That’s just life, isn’t it? It goes wrong. That’s also the rule with mates – they can go wrong from time to time. And if she wants a say in the groomsmen, odds are she’s worried one of them might make the wedding go wrong.
Some history: groomsmen were once needed at a wedding to ward off anyone who wanted to attack the groom and steal his bride. The idea was that Enemy No. 1 turns up, sees the big cheese is rollin’ with his sword-wielding posse and then cowardly retreats. These days, we don’t hang out with guys who’d kill for us, but ones who’ve supported us.
Don’t get me wrong – these are probably also the same guys who’ve drawn on our faces while we’ve been passed out. They might be a little rough round the edges or social hand grenades, but they’ve been there for us and, while the bride may not be fans of theirs, we are. If her man’s happy, that should make her happy. So tell her not to stress*.
*However, with all rules, there are exceptions. She can have a say about who the groomsmen are if:
1. There are too many guys. You’ve got to cap it at some point.
2. One’s sleazed on to her before. Ain’t nobody got time for that.
3. They’re Donald Trump.”