CAN THE GROOM OPT OUT OF A WEDDING RING?
When it comes to wearing matrimonial bling, to some men it means a little, to others a lot
YES, says TV presenter, journalist and meteorologist Magdalena Roze
‘Darren [Robertson, chef and co-owner of Three Blue Ducks restaurants] and I will both have wedding rings. But he’d probably be happy without one if it meant more beer budget!
Darren’s actually worn a ring on his wedding finger for most of our relationship as a commitment thing, but he lost one in the surf and then another was starting to cut off his circulation (or so he says), so he’s been ring-free for a while. My theory is that you can’t make someone do something they don’t want to, and I don’t want Darren to do something just because I’ve told him to.
For me, wearing wedding rings is a tradition I want to stick to. I like the idea of wearing a ring as a symbol of our partnership, but the piece – what it’s made of, the stones and the cost – isn’t that important to me. I love my engagement ring; every time I look at it, I’m reminded of Darren and that’s nice. I didn’t expect it, which is even better!
Wedding rings used to be a given for me, right up until I met Darren. He’s so relaxed about these things and I feel very secure in our relationship, which is why I don’t mind if he doesn’t want to wear it, as long as it’s for the right reasons – if he’s taking it off before a trip to Vegas, though, we might need to have a little chat!’
NO, says TV personality Kym Herjavec
‘I think there are exceptions to the rule. Depending on the job, if you’re a tradesman or work with your hands, I think it’s OK not to wear a wedding ring all the time – but it’s a nice thing to do.
Apparently, men started to wear wedding rings during WWII – soldiers would wear them to remember their loved ones back home. Keeping that going these days is sweet. It’s nice for a guy at work who’s typing away to glance down and see his ring, then think about his loved one. I think that’s really special. When my husband, Robert, and I were married, exchanging rings was really special. Now, each time I see mine I think of him. It’s incredible to find your other half and go through life with them – the ring symbolises so much and reminds you of how lucky you are.
Rings were always a given for us. Robert loves his and was excited to wear it. I even have friends whose husbands wore an engagement ring. And why not? If he wants to wear one, he should go for it!
If Robert had said he didn’t want to wear a ring, I think I would’ve cared. Now I think about it, I really like that he wears one. Mind you, Prince William doesn’t and he and Kate seem like the perfect couple. Whatever floats your boat! But if it’s good enough for our soldiers, it’s good enough for guys now.’
What’s your guy’s bling theory?