CAN THE GROOM OPT OUT OF A WED­DING RING?

When it comes to wear­ing mat­ri­mo­nial bling, to some men it means a lit­tle, to oth­ers a lot

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YES, says TV pre­sen­ter, jour­nal­ist and me­te­o­rol­o­gist Mag­dalena Roze

‘Dar­ren [Robert­son, chef and co-owner of Three Blue Ducks restau­rants] and I will both have wed­ding rings. But he’d prob­a­bly be happy with­out one if it meant more beer bud­get!

Dar­ren’s ac­tu­ally worn a ring on his wed­ding fin­ger for most of our re­la­tion­ship as a com­mit­ment thing, but he lost one in the surf and then an­other was start­ing to cut off his cir­cu­la­tion (or so he says), so he’s been ring-free for a while. My the­ory is that you can’t make some­one do some­thing they don’t want to, and I don’t want Dar­ren to do some­thing just be­cause I’ve told him to.

For me, wear­ing wed­ding rings is a tra­di­tion I want to stick to. I like the idea of wear­ing a ring as a sym­bol of our part­ner­ship, but the piece – what it’s made of, the stones and the cost – isn’t that im­por­tant to me. I love my en­gage­ment ring; ev­ery time I look at it, I’m re­minded of Dar­ren and that’s nice. I didn’t ex­pect it, which is even bet­ter!

Wed­ding rings used to be a given for me, right up un­til I met Dar­ren. He’s so re­laxed about th­ese things and I feel very se­cure in our re­la­tion­ship, which is why I don’t mind if he doesn’t want to wear it, as long as it’s for the right rea­sons – if he’s tak­ing it off be­fore a trip to Ve­gas, though, we might need to have a lit­tle chat!’

NO, says TV per­son­al­ity Kym Her­javec

‘I think there are ex­cep­tions to the rule. De­pend­ing on the job, if you’re a trades­man or work with your hands, I think it’s OK not to wear a wed­ding ring all the time – but it’s a nice thing to do.

Ap­par­ently, men started to wear wed­ding rings dur­ing WWII – sol­diers would wear them to re­mem­ber their loved ones back home. Keep­ing that go­ing th­ese days is sweet. It’s nice for a guy at work who’s typ­ing away to glance down and see his ring, then think about his loved one. I think that’s re­ally spe­cial. When my hus­band, Robert, and I were mar­ried, ex­chang­ing rings was re­ally spe­cial. Now, each time I see mine I think of him. It’s in­cred­i­ble to find your other half and go through life with them – the ring sym­bol­ises so much and re­minds you of how lucky you are.

Rings were al­ways a given for us. Robert loves his and was ex­cited to wear it. I even have friends whose hus­bands wore an en­gage­ment ring. And why not? If he wants to wear one, he should go for it!

If Robert had said he didn’t want to wear a ring, I think I would’ve cared. Now I think about it, I re­ally like that he wears one. Mind you, Prince Wil­liam doesn’t and he and Kate seem like the per­fect cou­ple. What­ever floats your boat! But if it’s good enough for our sol­diers, it’s good enough for guys now.’

What’s your guy’s bling the­ory?

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