How to deal with the feels.
We all have moments when we go from being as happy as Larry (see what we did there?) to feeling like we need to cry into a pillow for no apparent reason. Or when we’re getting ready for a party and feeling super pumped, then all of a sudden feeling totally down on ourselves and wondering what the eff is wrong. “We often get calls from young people who are concerned about changes in their mood,” explains Sonia Thompson, a clinical practice supervisor at Kids Helpline. “They start to notice that they can swing between feeling down and being happy and then angry in a short space of time. These sudden changes in mood can feel really overwhelming, but there are lots of people going through the same thing.”
Part of it has to do with science. During puberty, the body starts producing sex hormones called oestrogen and progesterone. These hormones are responsible for physical changes such as breast development, growth spurts and the start of our periods, and they can also cause emotional changes. “These sex hormones have different effects on everyone, and in some
people it can affect their emotions,” says Sonia. “The hormones can make you feel ups and downs, and you may not even know why you are feeling the way you do.” The other part of it has to do with life. Let’s be real: if high school isn’t enough of a reason to make you feel a little blue from time to time, we don’t know what is! The constant stress over maths homework, squad dramz and having to wake up super early erryday is totally a contributing factor to feeling ~moody~ every now and then. “Because there are so many changes going on from the time you start puberty, it is really common to feel like you are stuck on an emotional roller-coaster,” explains Sonia. “Some of the changes are happening within your body and some are happening externally.” So, basically, feels are just a normal part of growing up.
DEALING WITH ALL THEM FEELS
It’s obvs impossible to fight biology, so here are some natural, medically proven ways to boost your mood. TALK IT OUT It’s easy to hold stuff in when you’re mad AF, but studies show that bottling up your feels will actually lead to more anger outbursts. Address the problem in a calm and casual way to find a sweet solution. CATCH SOME Zs You may not know it or want to believe it, but the amount of sleep you have each night has a ~major~ impact on your mood. Peeps who don’t get enough sleep are more prone to feeling irritable and annoyed, and, in fact, a lack of sleep is linked to depression. If you want to feel fab in the morning, it’s recommended you get eight to nine hours of sleep every night. WORK IT Regular exercise boosts the production of endorphins (AKA happiness hormones), which means you’ll be improving your mood and getting fit at the same time – it’s a win-win! Turn to page 102 for easy-as exercises you can do RN. GET CREATIVE Whether you enjoy cooking, drawing, colouring or writing, creative activities are a great way to chill out and express yourself. Keeping a journal can also be super helpful in dealing with your day-to-day probz. JUST BREATHE Relaxation techniques such as meditation and yoga will do wonders for your mood! Jump on Youtube for some free tutorials or hit up a local class with your squad.
As we’ve already mentioned, feeling moody is a totally normal part of life. But if you’re constantly irritated, shorttempered and anxious to the point where your emotions are actually ruling your life and you’re having trouble dealing with others, you may have more than just a bad mood. “Experiencing intense sadness or having a quick temper and feelings of isolation that last for a minimum two-week period is a sign you really need to talk to a professional about your feelings,” Sonia recommends. “Importantly, remember that you are not alone in the way you’re feeling. Lots of young people go through mood changes, but if you’re worried that something might be wrong, listen to how you’re feeling and reach out for some help – that’s a real sign of strength!”
“IT IS REALLY COMMON TO FEEL LIKE YOU ARE STUCK ON AN EMOTIONAL ROLLERCOASTER.”