WHEN YOUR BESTIE’S PARENTS DON’T LIKE
DOLLY susses out what to do when your BFF’S parents aren’t your biggest fans.
Best friends are pretty damn hard to find, so when you do you promise that nothing will ever get between you. But if, for whatever reason, their parents aren’t too keen on you, it can make things pretty tough. Natasha*, 16, was mega close with her bestie Scarlet* until she found out Scarlet’s mum didn’t like her, which took a major toll on their friendship. “Whenever I went to Scarlet’s house for a sleepover, her mum would be very uptight. Like, Scarlet and I would be laughing and having a good time and her mum would give me a serious look, and literally every move I made she’d be like ‘Don’t touch that!’. “One time, we had just got back to school from a three-day sports trip. Her mum picked us up and we were telling her about it, and she seemed very unhappy when we told her we had stayed up past curfew. “The next weekend, I had planned a sleepover at my house and she wasn’t allowed to come over, which really confused me ’cos Scarlet was really excited for it. My other besties were like ‘Her mum thinks you’re a bad influence on her so she doesn’t want her hanging out with you’. “I was shocked. I was a good student...yeah, I was a little cheeky, but so was Scarlet! “As we started getting older, we went to parties together. But if her mum found out we were going together, Scarlet wouldn’t be allowed to go anymore ’cos her mum assumed that since I was going it must be a really crazy party – which they weren’t! “Since we weren’t allowed to go out together, she started hanging out with other girls in the grade. On Mondays, our squad would be talking about the great time we had on the weekend and Scarlet would feel left out ‘cos she wasn’t allowed to go, so that really affected our friendship and eventually we drifted apart.” According to psychotherapist Dr Karen Phillip (drkarenphillip. com), Natasha’s story is a common one. “Parents are easily concerned a friend may badly influence their daughter, so they become overprotective,” she says. The solution? Show her parentals that you are a model student and, more importantly, an ~amaze~ friend! Impress them by displaying a high standard of behaviour, and talk to the parents on their level so they can connect with you and understand that you’re a great friend.