THERE ARE NO SUCCESSFUL HERMITS IN REAL ESTATE
SUCCESS IS NOT always measured in dollars: many of us feel most fulfilled when what we do on a daily basis meets our highest values. However, to achieve our goals we all need to connect with other people. Here are some simple shortcuts to develop deeper connections in three arenas: the professional, personal and private theatres of our lives.
SUCCESS, HOWEVER WE DEFINE IT, is not a solo performance. We need to connect with others to obtain the outcomes we seek in the 3 Ps: our professional, personal and private lives, as performance coach Rik Rushton explains.
THE PROFESSIONAL ARENA
I don’t have to be your friend to work with you, but I do have to connect at some level. So how can I do that? There are several things to remember in order to achieve this connection.
People are not their behaviours! Often they are responding out of an emotional challenge. Tune in to that challenge and, by displaying empathy, you will enhance your rapport and deepen your relationship with colleagues.
People don’t like surprises and prefer to engage with others who are ‘just like them’, so by understanding the personality traits and triggers of colleagues you will know how best to connect and collaborate with them.
Showing up is the job half done. Connection and collaboration with others is where it’s at, so copy others in whenever you can (‘Email CC’ is connection 101).
‘If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it’ is the language of those workplaces stuck in the comfort zone. If it ain’t broke it’s probably obsolete! Be a workplace ‘disrupter’ in a positive sense; challenge the status quo, and progress your team and organisation.
If there’s dialogue in your workplace starting with ‘What the company needs to do is….’, you need to correct that in yourself
I don’t have to be your friend to work with you, but I do have to connect at some level.
and colleagues to ‘What our company can do to improve is….’. And remember, it’s not ‘the company’; it’s ‘our company’.
THE PERSONAL ARENA
Success in this area is all about work/ life balance. When you’re at work… work! When you’re at home, it’s ‘family first’. Don’t mix the two. Let your family know that your professional arena is not your life but that it funds your lifestyle.
What we do here and who we are here is more important than money. ‘What is it I do that makes you know I love you?’ is a great question to ask on the home front. In fact, your ability to deliver emotional dialogue may just be the most important leadership, parenting and ‘self-leadership’ skill you can develop.
THE PRIVATE ARENA
Get your head in the game – it’s all about perspective. Going the extra mile is the cost of becoming a master communicator and connector, and it starts in your headspace.
Any day above ground is a great day to connect with myself and others. However, just turning up or ‘dialling in’ is not OK in the professional or personal arenas. Remember, energy is everything – so ask yourself, ‘Am I ready to give the best version of me today?’.
It’s OK to drop the ball; we all have bad moments. It’s not OK to do nothing about it. Reassess quickly and return to the better version of you.
My advice is start each day with key outcomes you seek in each of the three ‘P Arenas’. What’s a key Professional outcome I can achieve today? What’s the best outcome for the Personal arena I can accomplish today? What’s the gift I can give myself today in the Private arena?
Outcomes are more important than activities. You can tick off everything on your to-do list and still go home feeling like you haven’t achieved anything of real purpose. So start measuring your day by outcomes in the three P Arenas, not activities.
These strategies are covered in greater detail in my book, The Power of Connection: How to become a master communicator in your workplace, in your headspace and at your place.
In it we explore the full subject of communication, collaboration and deeper connections with others in your workplace and, more importantly, at ‘your place’. There are seven easy-to-read (and even easier to implement) tools that you can use starting now to improve the quality of your connections, communication and, ultimately, of your life. •
Rik Rushton has been a peak performance coach, platform speaker, conference emcee and trusted advisor to many of the leading brands, organisations and professional sports teams throughout Australasia since 1995.
Any day above ground is a great day to connect with myself and others.