PA­TIENCE AND PRAC­TICE

Ad­just­ing to any kind of change can be daunt­ing for the best of us. Fiona Blayney looks back at a steep learn­ing curve and ad­vises: Just give it time.

Elite Property Manager - - Contents - FIONA BLAYNEY Fiona Blayney is the founder and di­rec­tor of Real+ on­line. For more in­for­ma­tion visit re­alplus.com.au.

Fiona Blayney

As­in­gle woman doesn't re­ally need a 4WD, es­pe­cially when she has noth­ing that needs cart­ing around in the back of it; a lap­top can surely fit in the front seat.

Af­ter cav­ing to the ad­vice of Dad when I re­turned from my back­pack­ing ad­ven­tures, I bought that sen­si­ble Green Corolla Hatch in­stead of the Jeep Wran­gler I so des­per­ately wanted. At age 30, how­ever, I bit the bul­let and bought the Black Rav4 Cruiser L, for which I had no pur­pose but an in­sane de­sire to own.

I loved that car: its leather in­te­rior, heated seats and phone carkit…. Did I say it was black and had a sun­roof? Driv­ing it off the lot, I thought I'd made it and cher­ished ev­ery mo­ment be­hind the wheel.

Of course, there have been sev­eral cars since then – and no, I'm not a Eu­ro­pean girl… I like my cars like my men. I'm a ‘top of the line mid-range kind of gal' (snig­ger). But fun­nily enough the Rav hasn't left the fam­ily and in­stead it made its way to its cur­rent home, the na­ture strip at Dad's. Seems he found a nonuse use for it too.

The first day I got my new Mazda CX9, I pulled out of that deal­er­ship at a snail's pace. It felt like I was driv­ing a tank, it was so big; it had more sounds and flash­ing lights than a jumbo jet. I was on edge for days as I nav­i­gated the streets of Syd­ney, and had a near miss with a pole in the shop­ping cen­tre car park (OK, it wasn't a near miss; it was a slight kiss of a pole that left a slither of a paint de­posit – thank God it came off with that use­ful tool, my fin­ger­nail). I was seven months preg­nant and cry­ing that day, con­tem­plat­ing how I would ever nav­i­gate out of the car park let alone drive this car as our new mode of trans­porta­tion.

I some­how man­aged to not only get out of the car park but make it home, and now 10 months later I'm zoom­ing around the streets of Syd­ney. The noises are now alerts, the re­vers­ing cam­era a must and the key­less en­try en­sures I never have to turn my hand­bag up­side down in a fran­tic search again.

When I jumped into my old Rav4 last week, whilst it looks bet­ter than new, I couldn't be­lieve how dif­fer­ent it felt. Some­thing that was once sec­ond na­ture was now old and clunky. Ev­ery­thing about it felt ‘harder': the steer­ing, the mir­rors and even those butt-warm­ing seats.

There's been a pe­riod of ma­jor change in my life in re­cent times, and it con­tin­ues; with the ar­rival of our now six-month-old, I've gone from be­ing a mum of two to a mother of three (wow, what a ride that is!), our busi­ness has ex­panded in the past 18 months, which has meant what was a team of six is now tribe of 16 – oh, and my el­dest started school so I've joined the P&C (that's an ar­ti­cle for an­other day).

At times life feels just like it did when I drove that CX9 for the very first time. There are days when, like you, I'm over­whelmed by too many new things and brought to tears. I keep re­mind­ing my­self that even if I bump into a pole in the car park, one day soon this ‘new life' will have be­come my nor­mal and I'll be driv­ing with ease. All it takes is a lit­tle time, pa­tience and prac­tice.

WHEN I JUMPED INTO MY OLD RAV4 LAST WEEK, WHILST IT LOOKS BET­TER THAN NEW, I COULDN'T BE­LIEVE HOW DIF­FER­ENT IT FELT.

THERE ARE DAYS, WHEN, LIKE YOU, I'M OVER­WHELMED BY TOO MANY NEW THINGS AND BROUGHT TO TEARS.

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