Back from rock bottom
NONE of us gets to choose the situation we are born into and should it be a violent, dysfunctional one, it all too often predisposes us to history repeating.
This happened to one young woman when her partner echoed the frightening experiences of her childhood. It eventually left her completely at rock bottom and with no family or support to turn to.
At her lowest point, that young woman realised for anything to change she had to experience a final indignation: to let go of her pride.
The very survival of her young family depended on it.
She sought help with Anglicare WA and credits it with bringing not just herself but her children back from the brink. She had not seen the signs. “When I first met my partner, everything was fine; the problems didn’t begin until after the children were born,” she said.
“I never had any role models; not seeing healthy relationships, it’s hard to know what those relationships look like.”
Seeking help changed something she was desperate to avoid.
“My kids have seen domestic violence and I was so worried; I really did not want that for them,” she said. “Enough was enough; it was a call for help for my children.”
Her life has not only stabilised but is set to improve because she reached out.
“We have a home which we love and now I have the time for my kids,” she said.
“It’s like a 180-degree turn to where we were. We had nothing, absolutely nothing.
“I remember having just bread or Weet-Bix to eat because I felt too ashamed to go and ask for a food hamper.”
She said she could now enjoy her children and had built solid foundations for her family.
“I have gone back to study and I am due to finish my course this year,” she said.
“We are all calmer and happier. I’m glad that I recognised I needed to make a different choice.
“I’m not going to be the mum hitting her children”
She said support was out there and had this advice to others affected.
“It’s tough but if you need help, go seek it. There will be help out there for your family,” she said.