Selena opens up about love, friendship and trying to be an ordinary girl.
A lot of your music and much of the concerns of young women revolve around love and relationships. What have you learnt about those things in life?
I’ve realised that being in a relationship is not a fairy tale. There are going to be problems even if you are very much in love. I still believe in romance and great love, though, but I don’t think I’m different from anyone else.
You have a reputation as being the good girl…
I try to be a good girl, but sometimes you want to give in to temptation and just let yourself go and not worry about your image. But I take my responsibility to my fans seriously. I would like to set a good example. Even when I take on a role like in Spring Breakers and I’m kind of playing a bad girl, I wanted to be sure that the film had integrity and that we were showing what can happen when you take chances and make bad choices like those girls do.
How do you keep it together?
I grew up with strong values of Latin culture: family, friendship, and respect. I don’t like it when people are rude. It’s not that hard to be appreciative, to say please or thank you. I want to always embrace those kinds of values and be very grateful and humble in life. It all starts with how I was raised by my mum and dad and my stepdad and how they shaped who I am. Then I have good friends to rely on when sometimes the pressures of this business get to me. I would rather have real friends around me who will feel free to tell me that I’m not looking good on a given day or that I should go
work out. I need to have people like that as my friends who will tell me the truth or at least what they think.
How do you handle all your social network followers on Twitter and Instagram?
Sometimes I wish that social networks didn’t exist because you see a lot of bullying and mean things being said about people. I don’t like the idea that some people feel entitled to abuse other people while hiding behind a screen. I try to use social networks to stay in touch with my fans and give them a true sense of who I am. It’s also a good way for me to stay in touch with my friends when I’m touring.
Do you ever feel overly stressed by your fame?
I choose to live this life and be able to perform and enjoy everything that comes with the success I’ve had. But sometimes you feel panicked and the weight of the world on your shoulders. In the past, we didn’t know about the intimate daily details of the lives of stars like Audrey Hepburn or Marilyn Monroe so there was more privacy for people in the spotlight.
Have you changed a lot in the past few years?
I feel more independent and curious about the world. I think I’m in the process of becoming an adult and I hope my fans are able to see that transition, although at times I still feel young. I often hang out with people who are older than me and I’ve learnt a lot from touring the world. I like to travel in Europe. I even get lost sometimes!