I’m 14 and want to come out so badly
– I want to scream, “I’m pansexual and agender!” to the whole world. But there’s a guy in my class who would probably beat me up for it. I don’t have many friends and I’ve advised them they can leave me if I get bullied and beaten up, because I don’t want them to get hurt. Is there a right thing to do?
Your sexuality isn’t a choice, but the when, how, and who of coming out is. If you don’t feel safe, sometimes it’s best to wait to come out at school. Rather than coming out to the whole world it may be better to start with a safe person. Pick your time and place carefully, and write down what you’re going to say first. You’re not alone. There are other people out there who’ve been where you are. Try chatting to a trained counsellor anonymously at Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800.