Always the M8, never the D8
TFW every guy in the world has no idea you exist. Spoiler alert: you can totally flip that!
First up, plzzzz don’t think you’re not cute
You totally are. Babetown = you! Seriously, boys not asking you out is rarely about physical stuff – and if it is, they’re not the kinda boys you wanna date anyway, bb. It’s so common for us girls to immediately decide someone not liking us is about how flat/mousey/ frizzy our hair is, or how we have braces, or how we have one knobbly knee and one smooth knee. And honestly? Guys are NOT looking that critically at us. Coz guess what! They’re not perfect human specimens either! And to top it off – everyone has different types of people they find attractive. Think about it – you like surfer guys, your bestie loves quiet, arty ones. So it makes sense that guys are into different types of girls too, right? Not to mention that loads of attractiveness is about who you are as a person – that killer sense of humour and the fact that you know all the rap verses in ‘Starships’ are way more important than that one bad hair day.
Walk into the class like, what up
But confidence IS a thing. When you lack confidence, you might come off a bit intimidating or disinterested, coz you’re sending out vibes that you’re not worth talking to! And that’s the worst, coz you’re amazing and 110 per cent worth a cute chat. Don’t get it twisted – confidence isn’t about being the centre of attention, or the girl at the party who’s game enough to p lug their iPhone in to start the d-floor. You can be quiet, loud, even shy, and still be a confident babe. Really, confidence comes down to thinking you’re A-grade, and believing it. Lacking those feels? Try writing down all your awesome traits in a journal, and any time you feel crappy, have a squiz of the list. Yeah, that’s right. You’re amazing.
And if nothing else…
Tried all of this stuff and still get zero guy interaction? Do not stress. Plenty of girls go through high school seemingly invisible to boys. Sometimes it’s coz your boy-pool is small and there’s just no-one in there who is your vibe. Sometimes it’s just whatever. But don’t think that’ll be the case for the rest of your life! In the GF office, more than half of us had no high school bf, and a number of us had never even kissed a boy ’til Uni. There’s plenty of time for love later – so if it’s all quiet on the guy front, just focus on all the awesome stuff you do have and let the rest happen when it happens.
Gurl, dw – DUFFs don’t exist. Like Bianca, all you need is a lil’ confidence to go and flirt with your own Wesley.
Tay Tay in ‘You Belong With Me’ = all the feels!