The gorgeous vlogger dishes out advice on friendship dramz.
Jess Conte solves your friendship dramas
we don’t have to tell you how obsessed with Jess Conte we are. She’s smart, talented, funny and stylish. Seriously, the girl is everything goals! Turns out, she’s also really knowledgeable when it comes to friendship issues, and gives super helpful advice. We got Jess to answer some of your questions – which tbh everyone experiences at some point in their life.
My bestie and I have been friends since we started primary school, but we went to different high schools and I feel like we’re drifting apart. How can I make sure we stay close? Love April xox
I think the main thing is for you to reach out to her. Invite her over for a sleepover, go to the movies, spend some quality time together, and maybe even let her know how you’re feeling. I’ve known my best friend since we were three, and for most of our lives we have lived in different cities. But whenever we saw each other, nothing changed. If you don’t see your bestie a lot, maybe FaceTime to catch up :) Jess x
My parents are a lot stricter than my friends’ parents and sometimes I miss out on squad hangs because I’m not allowed to go. I’m pretty embarrassed about it, so I lie and say that I’m sick or I have a family commitment. I’m worried they’re starting to think I’m a flake, but I don’t want to tell them the truth coz they might think I’m lame. What should I do? Love from Krishna
Hey Krishna :) I know it might be embarrassing or hard, but try to be so proud of who you are. Your parents are strict because they love you so much, so try and have a positive outlook on it. My advice for you is to create squad hangs at places your parents are OK with. Maybe a sleepover at your house? Jess x
I’m kind of shy and I’m not very popular or cool, I don’t have a group and everyone else does. I really want a tight group of friends coz I feel like I’m missing out, but I don’t know how to go about it. Love from Lila
Definitely don’t try to rush into a friendship group, because I think you’ll find yourself just trying to be like them for them to like you and you don’t want to do that. :) Definitely make sure you stay true to who you are – be yourself – because people will love that. If you’re wanting to try and make some friends, I would suggest to try and just start having little conversations with people day-by-day. Start by saying ‘hello’ in the morning when people arrive at school and ‘goodbye’ when people are leaving. Just start that interaction and conversation. You could even ask how their weekend was! Jess x
My boyfriend and I broke up, and I let my friendships slide while I was with him – now I’m lost. I could really do with a friend right now, but I don’t know how to go back when I’m the one that disappointed them. From Madeline xx
This is a tricky one and I’m sorry you’re in this situation. Honestly, the best advice I could give would be to just go back to your friends. For me, I love giving gifts and being sentimental. So I might go get their favourite chocolates, sit them down and explain how much you missed them and how sorry you are for letting your friendship slide. I’m sure they’re going to be so glad you came back! Just make sure in future to keep your girls close no matter what. <3 Jess x
My bestie copies everything I do.
She buys the same clothes as me, she always just agrees with everything I say, and even though she wasn’t into 5SOS at all, now she loves them because I do. I know it’s meant to be flattering, but I find it really annoying. I liked her personality when it was her own, I want to say something, but I don’t want to offend her. Love Tahnee
To be honest, I think this is something a lot of girls go through – I definitely have. I think it’s a very natural thing when you become so close with someone that you adopt their mannerisms, you start liking what they like, and so on. Definitely try to see the positive side in that you both have so much to bond over, talk about and do together. But if it does continue to upset you, I’d find a way to gently bring it up with her. If I was in the situation, I would explain that I love how much we have in common and how she likes so much of the same things I do, but that I don’t want her to like those things and wear those clothes just because I do – that I love her so much just as she is and for everything she loves, because it makes her unique. :) Jess x
I’ve started to feel like I’m not that happy in the group I’m in. I don’t know what to do though, because everyone kinda has their friendship groups so I feel awkward trying to join another one. What should I do? From Chloe x
Hey Chloe :)
Don’t worry about how you’re feeling right now, it is a totally normal thing to go through – and sometimes making new friends is hard. Friendships also shouldn’t be forced, so if you don’t feel happy in the group you’re in, it’s OK! Do you have any different friends that you sit with in classes, who are in a different group? If so, I’d ask if you could sit with them at lunch and see how that goes. If you love it, then slowly transition yourself into that group. You definitely don’t want to upset the group you’re in at the moment, so make sure they know that you still love them and that they haven’t done anything that has upset you. If you can, still hang out with your old group every now and then to keep the friendship, even if they aren’t your main group anymore. Good luck, and please don’t worry too much about it – everything will be fine. :) Jess x