When a relationship comes to an end, it can sometimes get pretty messy and it can be really heartbreaking. For these insta-famous couples it played out in public – just like their relationships – and that’s not something anyone wants to go through when they’re heartbroken, angry, upset or not being very nice to each other. People online can often feel like they should be able to take a side and voice their opinions, even if they’re unkind. When Brittney-Lee Saunders and Dylan Ryan broke up it was very public, and trolls started making nasty comments – when it really wasn’t any of their business. If you break up with a BF, your friends and fam are interested in it because they care about you. This happens to celebs as well, but because their fans around the world have followed them through the relationship, they’re invested in the breakup as well.
oh, how we love a cute insta-couple. Jay Alvarrez and Alexis Ren, Jake Paul and Alissa Violet, Eva Gutowski and Alex Hayes... For years they’ve all been goals, goals, goals, GOALS – until they broke up and things got ugly, fast. WOW, were we not ready for the breakups, and we definitely weren’t prepared for how savage they got. Turns out the only thing more captivating than a viral relationship is a viral breakup...
From couple goals to being savagely trolled, like many things you see on social media, relationships aren’t always what they seem.
In case you needed just one more reminder that social media isn’t real life, keep in mind the snaps you see tell you very little about that couple’s actual relationship. It’s a façade – the best bits of people’s lives that they share because they’re low key having a humble brag. What you don’t see is the not so perfect, real stuff going on behind the scenes – maybe one of them is extremely secretive about their phone, or they fight about almost everything. Jalissa fans were shook when they heard Alissa’s claim that Jake was bringing other girls home almost every night and she would cry herself to sleep, because we certainly didn’t see that on YouTube! That’s one of the reasons it’s so shocking when these couples break up. One week you’re watching a cute video of them in matching onesies all snuggled up on the couch reviewing a movie they just saw and then the next week they’ve announced a breakup and suddenly start dishing dirt on the relationship and admit it’s been sour for months.
Comparisons are a killer
Comparing your real-life relationship to something you see online can be really unhealthy, and set unrealistic expectations of what a relationship involves. What you and your boyfriend have is different to what other couples have, and that’s a good thing – it’s what makes you guys special. There’s nothing wrong with wanting your friends and followers to see happy parts of your life. But remember that what really counts and makes a relationship great is how you treat each other behind the lens. And when you’re in the moment, think like Justin Bieber and keep the cameras away.
You might not be instafamous, but you should still be aware that the more you put your love life online, the more you expose yourself to the opinions of others. If everyone in your world feels like they can comment on your life without invitation, it feels the same as if the whole world is talking about you. Take a note out of our girl Selena’s book: she recently told Vogue that being super public when it comes to her relationships has come back to bite her in the past, and that she’ll never do that again. She’s learnt the hard way that when breakups happen IRL they happen online too, and suddenly no one is commenting #relationshipgoals.