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Breakup back­lash

When a re­la­tion­ship comes to an end, it can some­times get pretty messy and it can be re­ally heart­break­ing. For th­ese insta-fa­mous cou­ples it played out in pub­lic – just like their re­la­tion­ships – and that’s not some­thing any­one wants to go through when they’re heart­bro­ken, an­gry, up­set or not be­ing very nice to each other. Peo­ple on­line can of­ten feel like they should be able to take a side and voice their opin­ions, even if they’re un­kind. When Brit­tney-Lee Saunders and Dy­lan Ryan broke up it was very pub­lic, and trolls started mak­ing nasty com­ments – when it re­ally wasn’t any of their busi­ness. If you break up with a BF, your friends and fam are in­ter­ested in it be­cause they care about you. This hap­pens to celebs as well, but be­cause their fans around the world have fol­lowed them through the re­la­tion­ship, they’re in­vested in the breakup as well.

oh, how we love a cute insta-cou­ple. Jay Al­var­rez and Alexis Ren, Jake Paul and Alissa Vi­o­let, Eva Gu­towski and Alex Hayes... For years they’ve all been goals, goals, goals, GOALS – un­til they broke up and things got ugly, fast. WOW, were we not ready for the breakups, and we def­i­nitely weren’t pre­pared for how sav­age they got. Turns out the only thing more cap­ti­vat­ing than a vi­ral re­la­tion­ship is a vi­ral breakup...

From cou­ple goals to be­ing sav­agely trolled, like many things you see on so­cial me­dia, re­la­tion­ships aren’t al­ways what they seem.

Vir­tual(ly) re­al­ity?

In case you needed just one more re­minder that so­cial me­dia isn’t real life, keep in mind the snaps you see tell you very lit­tle about that cou­ple’s ac­tual re­la­tion­ship. It’s a façade – the best bits of peo­ple’s lives that they share be­cause they’re low key hav­ing a hum­ble brag. What you don’t see is the not so perfect, real stuff go­ing on be­hind the scenes – maybe one of them is ex­tremely se­cre­tive about their phone, or they fight about al­most ev­ery­thing. Jalissa fans were shook when they heard Alissa’s claim that Jake was bring­ing other girls home al­most ev­ery night and she would cry her­self to sleep, be­cause we cer­tainly didn’t see that on YouTube! That’s one of the rea­sons it’s so shock­ing when th­ese cou­ples break up. One week you’re watch­ing a cute video of them in match­ing one­sies all snug­gled up on the couch re­view­ing a movie they just saw and then the next week they’ve an­nounced a breakup and sud­denly start dish­ing dirt on the re­la­tion­ship and ad­mit it’s been sour for months.

Com­par­isons are a killer

Com­par­ing your real-life re­la­tion­ship to some­thing you see on­line can be re­ally un­healthy, and set un­re­al­is­tic ex­pec­ta­tions of what a re­la­tion­ship in­volves. What you and your boyfriend have is dif­fer­ent to what other cou­ples have, and that’s a good thing – it’s what makes you guys spe­cial. There’s noth­ing wrong with want­ing your friends and fol­low­ers to see happy parts of your life. But re­mem­ber that what re­ally counts and makes a re­la­tion­ship great is how you treat each other be­hind the lens. And when you’re in the mo­ment, think like Justin Bieber and keep the cam­eras away.

Real talk

You might not be in­stafa­mous, but you should still be aware that the more you put your love life on­line, the more you ex­pose your­self to the opin­ions of oth­ers. If every­one in your world feels like they can com­ment on your life without in­vi­ta­tion, it feels the same as if the whole world is talk­ing about you. Take a note out of our girl Selena’s book: she re­cently told Vogue that be­ing su­per pub­lic when it comes to her re­la­tion­ships has come back to bite her in the past, and that she’ll never do that again. She’s learnt the hard way that when breakups hap­pen IRL they hap­pen on­line too, and sud­denly no one is com­ment­ing #re­la­tion­ship­goals.

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