I’m 16 years old, my sister is 12 and my brother’s 10. My mum still treats me like a kid and I don’t think it’s fair because I’m so much older, but I’m not allowed to do all the things my friends are allowed to. All my friends are planning on going to a music festival and I really want to go. How can I make my mum see I’m old enough?
It can be tough when you’re the eldest. Your parents may still see you in the same way they see your younger siblings and may not realise you’re more mature. So, here’s the best way to handle this. Start small and start talking. Start with little requests – asking if you can stay out a bit later, or go somewhere new on your own. When you find something they say yes to, do it right, follow their rules and prove you are reliable. When you get home, share your experience. The more you communicate with your parents, the more they will see your maturity. This builds their trust and faith in you. The worst thing you can do is ask a big request that’s way too scary for your parents. Starting small will help them get used to you doing new things. Also remember, fighting with them won’t help. Show them you’re not a kid any more. If they are stuck on saying ‘no’, make a smaller request. It’s about negotiating!