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My par­ents are re­ally, re­ally strict when it comes to dat­ing. I have a boyfriend at school and I want to be able to do things like go to the movies with just him and for cof­fee dates, but I don’t know how to ask my par­ents. I don’t want to lie to them.

Kim says:

Con­grat­u­la­tions for be­ing honest and want­ing to go about this the right way. My first thought is do your par­ents know your boyfriend very well? If they don’t, my first tip would be to get them to­gether as much as pos­si­ble. Build up the trust your par­ents have in your boyfriend. No par­ent wants to leave their daugh­ter alone with some­one they don’t know or trust. Your job is to help your par­ents and your boyfriend build a re­la­tion­ship. This might sound an­noy­ing, or like hard work, but be­lieve me it will pay off. In­vite your boyfriend over to your house to spend some time with you and your family. There are three huge ben­e­fits to do­ing this: one, your par­ents will get to know him; two, you can see how ded­i­cated he is to you (any boy who takes time for your family is a keeper); and three, it will show him your family val­ues and how he is ex­pected to treat you. Once your par­ents build up trust in you and your boyfriend, they will be more likely to say ‘yes’ to let­ting you spend time to­gether alone. When par­ents are strict, you need to take things slow. Build­ing trust is the key!

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