My parents are really, really strict when it comes to dating. I have a boyfriend at school and I want to be able to do things like go to the movies with just him and for coffee dates, but I don’t know how to ask my parents. I don’t want to lie to them.
Congratulations for being honest and wanting to go about this the right way. My first thought is do your parents know your boyfriend very well? If they don’t, my first tip would be to get them together as much as possible. Build up the trust your parents have in your boyfriend. No parent wants to leave their daughter alone with someone they don’t know or trust. Your job is to help your parents and your boyfriend build a relationship. This might sound annoying, or like hard work, but believe me it will pay off. Invite your boyfriend over to your house to spend some time with you and your family. There are three huge benefits to doing this: one, your parents will get to know him; two, you can see how dedicated he is to you (any boy who takes time for your family is a keeper); and three, it will show him your family values and how he is expected to treat you. Once your parents build up trust in you and your boyfriend, they will be more likely to say ‘yes’ to letting you spend time together alone. When parents are strict, you need to take things slow. Building trust is the key!