VICKY, 53,

Good Health (Australia) - - Good Relationships -

an of­fice man­ager, di­vorced a few years ago af­ter 28 years of mar­riage. She says her hus­band, Dean, was too set in his ways.

“I imag­ined that when our chil­dren left home, my ex and I would do things to­gether and when my youngest daugh­ter went to univer­sity a cou­ple of years ago, I waited for life to change. But Dean went to work, came home, we had din­ner with friends, he played foot­ball, I went to the gym. And that was it.

I wanted to learn Span­ish – Dean laughed. I wanted to get fit­ter. Dean didn’t un­der­stand why. Grad­u­ally I found my­self do­ing more with friends and he be­came bit­ter.

Af­ter an­other night with friends when I was the only wo­man at the din­ner table with­out her hus­band, I fig­ured I might as well be sin­gle.

I rented a house and while Dean was at work I moved out. My two boys are still an­gry with me – but I hope one day they’ll un­der­stand that life with their dad was suf­fo­cat­ing.

A few fe­male friends stopped invit­ing me to their din­ners af­ter my di­vorce. Did they see me as a threat now I was sin­gle? But I sup­pose you learn who your friends are. I’ve been on a few dates – that was nerve-rack­ing. I didn’t know what to wear, I’d for­got­ten what it was like to be in the com­pany of a man who was in­ter­ested in me. But there’s no­body spe­cial. I don’t like the idea of be­ing alone for the rest of my life but I’d rather that than set­tle for sec­ond best.”

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