an office manager, divorced a few years ago after 28 years of marriage. She says her husband, Dean, was too set in his ways.
“I imagined that when our children left home, my ex and I would do things together and when my youngest daughter went to university a couple of years ago, I waited for life to change. But Dean went to work, came home, we had dinner with friends, he played football, I went to the gym. And that was it.
I wanted to learn Spanish – Dean laughed. I wanted to get fitter. Dean didn’t understand why. Gradually I found myself doing more with friends and he became bitter.
After another night with friends when I was the only woman at the dinner table without her husband, I figured I might as well be single.
I rented a house and while Dean was at work I moved out. My two boys are still angry with me – but I hope one day they’ll understand that life with their dad was suffocating.
A few female friends stopped inviting me to their dinners after my divorce. Did they see me as a threat now I was single? But I suppose you learn who your friends are. I’ve been on a few dates – that was nerve-racking. I didn’t know what to wear, I’d forgotten what it was like to be in the company of a man who was interested in me. But there’s nobody special. I don’t like the idea of being alone for the rest of my life but I’d rather that than settle for second best.”