Q: My mother blames me for her unhappiness. She’s impossible to please and lets me know I’m a disappointment. Is it possible to have a relationship with her?
Don’t buy into your mother’s blame game. Instead know your point of no return. It could be when she says, you don’t measure up, or you’re not good enough. At that point call her bluff. Start by not reacting to her criticism by thinking, ‘I’m a disappointment…’ Instead, remind yourself of everything you have achieved in your life. It’s not your responsibility to manage your mother’s emotions. When your mother takes responsibility for her feelings and knows she can no longer emotionally manipulate you, the two of you can have a grown-up relationship, where you can discuss your feelings and negotiate relationship boundaries.