Q: My mother blames me for her un­hap­pi­ness. She’s im­pos­si­ble to please and lets me know I’m a dis­ap­point­ment. Is it pos­si­ble to have a re­la­tion­ship with her?

Good Health (Australia) - - Ask The Experts -

Don’t buy into your mother’s blame game. In­stead know your point of no re­turn. It could be when she says, you don’t mea­sure up, or you’re not good enough. At that point call her bluff. Start by not re­act­ing to her crit­i­cism by think­ing, ‘I’m a dis­ap­point­ment…’ In­stead, re­mind your­self of ev­ery­thing you have achieved in your life. It’s not your re­spon­si­bil­ity to man­age your mother’s emotions. When your mother takes re­spon­si­bil­ity for her feel­ings and knows she can no longer emo­tion­ally ma­nip­u­late you, the two of you can have a grown-up re­la­tion­ship, where you can dis­cuss your feel­ings and ne­go­ti­ate re­la­tion­ship bound­aries.

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