how to start speaking out
Don’t overestimate ‘nice’ Being considered nice doesn’t win you friends – acquaintances maybe, but not proper friends – or promotions or respect. Honesty and integrity are far more valuable qualities. Always ask for time before committing to something Our immediate instinct is to agree to a request, but we can end up bitterly regretting it. Say you need some time to consider it first. list your priorities Whether these are your partner, family or friends, work or hobby. Only by understanding your priorities will you automatically speak up when one of them is threatened. Remember, the more you do it, the easier it becomes The more practice you get in speaking out, the easier it will be to frame your words thoughtfully and tactfully in the future. Always try to see the bigger picture Often we attach disproportionate importance to what we need to say. We’ll lie awake at night stressing about it, whereas for the other person, it’s much less of a big deal than we really think.