Seven ages of friend­ship

Good Health (Australia) - - Be Inspired -

We have be­come so used to mak­ing con­nec­tions with the click of a but­ton that it might sound odd to sug­gest that any­one still longs to make friends in real life. Yet the dis­turb­ing truth is that the num­ber of peo­ple we feel we can turn to falls rapidly af­ter the age of 25. We might think Face­book and What­sapp are sav­ing our re­la­tion­ships, but they only slow the rate of de­cay. And we need to work hard to main­tain friend­ships we want to keep. “There’s some­thing about see­ing the whites of peo­ple’s eyes that re­ally makes a dif­fer­ence,” says Robin Dun­bar, pro­fes­sor of evo­lu­tion­ary psy­chol­ogy at Ox­ford Univer­sity. But it’s not all bad news. Although we might find we have fewer friends when we are older, we of­ten end up feel­ing closer to the ones we keep, with more shared his­tory and fewer in­hi­bi­tions than we had when we were younger. These friend­ships are of­ten deeper and more ful­fill­ing.

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