Tilt this way: Brooke’s tips for simplifying life
One of the best ways to get started with tilting is to figure out your priorities – what’s really important to you – so you know what’s worth tilting into and what’s not worth worrying about right now. It can be as simple as writing a list of the five or 10 most important values in your life. I arrived at my core values by writing my ‘eulogy’. Spend some time scribbling your ideas down, then keep your list somewhere where you can refer to it. You could also try to:
» Make your bedroom a screen-free zone. As part of an experiment, I moved my phone to another room where I could still hear the alarm but had to get up to turn it off. I couldn’t believe the difference it made – I wasn’t on my phone right before I went to sleep, so I was nodding off much more easily, and if I woke up in the middle of the night I wasn’t reaching for it and getting distracted. It’s been a year now, and my phone hasn’t returned to the bedroom.
» Let go of clutter. When I was diagnosed with postnatal depression, I couldn’t deal with learning mindfulness or anything like that – I was too emotionally fragile. But I could deal with my clutter. I wasn’t a hoarder, it was just a normal amount of stuff for a family of four, but there was so much of it that we didn’t need, use or want. Letting go of it started to free up not only physical space, but also mental space and energy. I didn’t expect it to have such an impact on my emotional wellbeing, but it did.
» Think rhythm, rather than routine. I used to feel like I was failing a routine if I was five minutes late or did something ‘out of order’. Routine is a rigid notion, whereas rhythm has more of a softness to it. Things still flow, if you want to speed up you can and if you want to slow down you can. There’s no pass or fail to it, you just have to make it yours.
» Find slow moments in each day. Take a moment a couple of times a day to just sit and ‘be’. Take some deep breaths and pay attention to your senses one by one: what can you see, smell, taste, touch and hear? As simple as that sounds, I find it effective for taking me out of my head and into the present moment.
Destination Simple by Brooke Mcalary, Black Inc. Books, $12.99.