Mar­ried to one of Aus­tralia’s su­per­stars and a busy mum of two, Jules Se­bas­tian shares how she got her groove back

SHE’S MAR­RIED TO ONE OF AUS­TRALIA’S BIG­GEST STARS, YET JULES SE­BAS­TIAN ISN’T IM­MUNE FROM EMO­TIONAL LOWS – THE BUSY MUM TALKS TO PAUL EWART ABOUT MAK­ING A RE­LA­TION­SHIP WORK AND RE­GAIN­ING HER FIT­NESS

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She may be mar­ried to a global su­per­star, yet Jules Se­bas­tian isn’t im­mune to the tug of war that ev­ery work­ing mum must face, far from it, in fact. As mum to two boys, both un­der the age of seven, her day-to-day life is a buzz of school runs, packed lunches, food shop­ping, late nights and early morn­ings, and all the while strug­gling to man­age a busy ca­reer as a fash­ion stylist and blog­ger. Along the way some­thing had to give, and for the 36-year-old for­mer fit­ness en­thu­si­ast it was her own health. “I had kids and couldn’t be both­ered any­more!” she says, dis­play­ing an hon­esty Good Health soon learns is a huge part of her char­ac­ter. “I just stopped ex­er­cis­ing. Get­ting back into the gym was at the back of my mind, as I’m sure it is for many new mums. You think, ‘I’ll get to it one day’, but then that day never comes… you get your mum bod and you just ac­cept it, be­cause you just don’t have time.” When Guy was ap­proached last year by a men’s magazine to do an eightweek ‘body trans­for­ma­tion chal­lenge’ Jules took it as a cue for her own trans­for­ma­tion. Piggy-back­ing onto his train­ing ses­sions and eat­ing plan, she threw her­self into a health­ier life­style. “I just saw that as an op­por­tu­nity to get in there my­self and tagged along,” she ex­plains. “It re­ally helped that we were both do­ing it and were able to hold one an­other ac­count­able. We cleared the house of any­thing sug­ary and carb-y and started from scratch. “Af­ter three weeks I started to see re­sults – my body started to change and my mind cleared. It was so hard, but hav­ing a trainer re­ally helped, as did Guy go­ing through the same thing too. Af­ter­wards, I had proved to my­self that it can be done, even with two kids, so I no longer had the old ex­cuses.” The re­sults speak for them­selves. In re­cent In­sta­gram posts on her ac­count,

‘af­ter three weeks I started to see re­sults – my body started to change’

‘You get your mum bod and you just ac­cept it ’

both Jules and Guy are lean and ripped. Even on the day of our chat she’s fresh from a work­out with Guy and their train­ers so the regime is still clearly be­ing main­tained. “We’re both qui­etly com­pet­i­tive,” she re­veals. “So if he’s gone to the gym, then I feel I should. We’re lucky in that we have weird hours be­cause of our jobs, so we’ll have a ran­dom morn­ing or af­ter­noon free to­gether to be able to get to the gym. It’s very mo­ti­vat­ing, es­pe­cially if one of us has a six-pack and the other has a fat pack – that’s no good!” she chuck­les. Just as her fit­ness is a con­scious work in progress, so is her diet, ad­mit­ting that her nat­u­ral pref­er­ence is “to eat all of the things that aren’t good for me”. “Grow­ing up, be­cause I was so ac­tive and sporty, I could eat what­ever I liked,” she re­calls. “I didn’t have to think about

‘I’m in a much bet­ter headspace now than I was be­fore I started to ex­er­cise’

my diet, but now that I’m older, things don’t stay where you want them to. I’ve had to re-train my brain to ed­u­cate my­self on what’s good for me and what’s not. “It’s all about choices – try­ing to make the healthy choice each meal. Yes­ter­day, for ex­am­ple, I had three boiled eggs, some ham and baby spinach for break­fast; lunch was a chicken salad; and din­ner was pump­kin and sweet­corn soup. I had a sweet crav­ing in the even­ing, but rather than reach­ing for the choco­late, I cut up some ap­ple and ate it with some Greek yo­ghurt, and had a cup of tea in­stead of a wine!”

Truth about moth­er­hood

Giv­ing birth to Hud­son in 2012 and Archer two years later, the de­mands of moth­er­hood hit Jules harder than she ex­pected. And while she had the eu­phoric highs that chil­dren bring, she also faced some epic lows. “I think it’s such a shock to the sys­tem,” she says, re­flect­ing on that pe­riod. “You go from your nor­mal life, and do­ing what­ever you want to do, when you want to do it to hav­ing lit­tle hu­man be­ings that are de­pen­dent on you 24/7. It lit­er­ally hap­pens overnight, so you don’t have time to pre­pare or get used to it. You don’t have a choice – you can’t walk out or give up. “Of course, you would die for your kids and do any­thing for them, but it doesn’t take away from the fact that you might not want to wake up that morn­ing be­cause you haven’t slept prop­erly for the last two weeks. It’s such a mixed bag of emo­tions – and then you go and have an­other one!” In­ner men­tal tur­moil isn’t any­thing new to Jules, hav­ing pre­vi­ously spo­ken about her self-es­teem is­sues. When Good Health quizzes the down-to-earth per­son­al­ity about where she’s at right now, she ad­mits that she’s still fac­ing a bit of a jour­ney be­fore reach­ing in­ter­nal equi­lib­rium. “I wish I could say yes and I feel like I’m work­ing to­wards it, but I’m not quite there yet,” she ad­mits. “I find my­self in cer­tain sit­u­a­tions won­der­ing ‘Why do I feel so in­se­cure?’ and ‘Why do I feel like the un­pop­u­lar kid at school?’ It’s some­thing I’m work­ing on. As I get older, these feel­ings are sur­fac­ing less and less but they’re still there.” Her search for con­fi­dence has also led to her role as am­bas­sador for Wool­worths’ new affordable skin­care line Voeu. “If you look good it can change your per­sona and in­crease your con­fi­dence,” she says. “A lot of my work in­volves be­ing in front of peo­ple, so it’s im­por­tant my skin is in good con­di­tion. Plus get­ting older, I’m a bit more wrinkly these days! I don’t want to pile on con­cealer or be self-con­scious.” Jules has tac­tics in her arse­nal that are help­ing her bat­tle the low mo­ments that go beyond skin deep. “At the risk of sound­ing like a cliché, I def­i­nitely think ex­er­cise and be­ing healthy makes a re­ally big dif­fer­ence,” she ad­mits. “I know from ex­pe­ri­ence, as I’m in a much bet­ter headspace now than when I was be­fore I started to ex­er­cise and eat bet­ter. Also, sleep! It’s al­most im­pos­si­ble when you have ba­bies, but now that my two are older it’s a lot bet­ter. I checked on my Fit­bit app last night and had slept for al­most eight hours straight. I can’t re­mem­ber the last time that hap­pened. I had to tell Guy about it, I was so ex­cited! “An­other im­por­tant thing is to

‘WE’VE GOT­TEN THROUGH SO MUCH OF LIFE TO­GETHER, SO MANY UPS AND DOWNS’ To and ’fro: Jules and her gor­geous guys

sur­round your­self with pos­i­tive peo­ple: good friends, good co­work­ers, and mar­ry­ing the right per­son helps too. If I’m in a neg­a­tive space, Guy will be the first one to say, ‘Come on, dude, stop it. Snap your­self out of it!’”

Teenage sweet­hearts

Speak­ing of the chart-top­per, theirs is a sto­ry­book love story. Grow­ing up to­gether in small town South Aus­tralia, the pair be­gan dat­ing as teens in 1999 be­fore ty­ing the knot eight years later. “We’ve been to­gether prac­ti­cally our en­tire lives,” says Jules. “He’s the only boyfriend I’ve ever had and we’ve just fig­ured it out... we’ve stuck with one an­other. We’ve got­ten through so much of life to­gether, so many ups and downs, so many life ex­pe­ri­ences – it just works. We make it work.” Hav­ing been to­gether for close to 20 years, Jules is a re­al­ist when it comes to main­tain­ing a re­la­tion­ship. And she knows that ev­ery day won’t be sunshine and rain­bows. “It’s a lot of years to be with some­one,” she con­cedes. “The bot­tom line is that you have to like one an­other and you have to en­joy each other’s com­pany. You don’t al­ways have the warm­est feel­ings to­wards your part­ner ev­ery day and I’m sure there are a lot of things about me that an­noy him, but he’s stuck with me. “Some days you just have to say to your­self ‘This is the per­son I’m with, this is the per­son I love.’ You need lots of for­give­ness and you need to com­mu­ni­cate. I know some­times you can’t get past some­thing, which is why peo­ple break up, but for the most part, I think you can work it out.” Win­ning the first series of Aus­tralian Idol in 2003, Guy has gone on to be­come one of the most suc­cess­ful Aus­tralian acts of the last decade, re­leas­ing nine top 10 al­bums, as well as con­quer­ing the US charts and per­form­ing for the likes of Oprah and the Queen. Yet de­spite reach­ing su­per­star sta­tus, Jules says that her hubby is one of the most grounded peo­ple she’s met. “Ev­ery­thing he’s been through could have changed him,” ad­mits the motherof-two. “It could have all gone to his head and he could have taken on this new life and done some­thing dif­fer­ently with an­other per­son. I give him so much credit be­cause he re­ally has re­mained the same. I’ve known him since I was 14, so I would know if he had changed and he re­ally hasn’t. It’s a credit to him, to re­main ex­actly who he is in an in­dus­try where it’s re­ally hard to do that. “He’s su­per-hum­ble, re­ally kind, nice to ev­ery­one, and also a freak tal­ent. All of this makes it pretty easy to be mar­ried to some­one like Guy!” Jules also sees her two young boys as a con­stant source of in­spi­ra­tion. “I learn from them all the time,” she smiles. “Kids are amaz­ing, ev­ery­thing is ex­cit­ing to them, ev­ery­thing is new. You just see their won­der for life and that’s in­spir­ing. They keep you mo­ti­vated and in­volved in life – they’re awe­some!” This back-to-ba­sics way of look­ing at the world clearly res­onates with the Syd­ney-based mum and has helped shape her pri­or­i­ties. Strip­ping away the red car­pets, the award shows and all the other trap­pings that come with life as the part­ner of an A-lis­ter, Jules knows what’s im­por­tant: “Kind­ness,” she says. “We’re church kids from way back and have grown up in an at­mos­phere where oth­ers re­ally do come first. “So while we’re very priv­i­leged in our lives to be mix­ing with some in­spir­ing fa­mous peo­ple, there’s no ex­cuse to not be kind to peo­ple and there’s no per­son who is more spe­cial than an­other. We’re all hu­man be­ings and we’re all the same.”

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