What TED Taught Us
THREE SEX FACTS WE’VE LEARNT FROM THE EDUCATIONAL TALKS. NOTEPADS AT THE READY.
“You can orgasm when dead”
After death, stimulating the spine’s sacral nerve can trigger an orgasm reflex – just one genius factoid in comic writer Mary Roach’s 10 Things You Didn’t Know About Orgasm. Others include whether foetuses masturbate (pictorial evidence suggests yes) and the longest recorded ejaculation – 2.4 metres, if you’re feeling competitive.
“We’re programmed to share partners”
In Are We Designed to be Sexual Omnivores?, psychologist Christopher Ryan looks at the promiscuity of prehistoric humans, plus chimps – which can have sex with up to a dozen different partners a day – to encourage a greater respect for relationships that don’t fit the ‘monogamous heterosexual’ label. Smart stuff.
“Time apart is key for longterm lust”
That’s psychotherapist Esther Perel’s revelation in The Secret to Desire in a Long-term Relationship. She says a period spent away from your lover triggers imagination and longing. Also, watching your partner do things they’re competent at: public speaking, performing, working the room. Turns out observing confidence is a powerful turn-on.