Note to dads: don’t ditch style.
Congratulations on making it to your first Father’s Day. No longer the one day you’re expected to call Dad (but usually forget), it’s a celebration of you, dedicated to you and all about you. Except, a disclaimer – a first of many on entering fatherhood – just who are you now? Because as incomparably wonderful as it is to welcome a child into the world, it comes wrapped in a personal identity crisis, often addressed to the style-confused. Suddenly the letters ‘D’ ‘A’ and ‘D’ frame you, they best describe you and they even dress you. Whatever joke you make, it’s now ‘of the dad variety’; whatever exercise you do, your ‘dadbod’ has doubled in name, if not its size; whatever clothes you wear... you get the ‘dad’ drift. But that’s no invitation to succumb to fatherly stereotypes. The option to RSVP ‘no thanks’ to the encroachment of dad-ness into your life is always there. It doesn’t mean neglecting fatherhood, nor does it mean neglecting yourself. The Tom Ford three-piece, the vintage Burberry trench, the Gucci bomber – they can easily co-exist alongside life’s new accessory. Indeed, the birth of a child doesn’t have to coincide with the end of your former life. It can (we’re not here to judge), but it doesn’t have to. Just realise it’s not compulsory to wear shapeless trackie daks and ‘floor’ T-shirts every day. And a beach day doesn’t have to entail a ‘long boardies, rashie and thongs’ combo. Oh, lordy. No, we’re here to reassure you that thinking about yourself in this new stage of life is not a crime. Giving yourself a Common Projects-shaped treat every so often is more than acceptable, and well within any dad’s rights. Think of the children – everyone wants to look back at photo albums and see that their parents were cool, right? One last word of advice: boundaries – know them. Before oversharing in the pub, at work, or on social media, ask yourself: is what you’re about to divulge of interest to a pre-dad you? And if a guide on what to avoid is still required, we’ll keep it brief – don’t discuss prams, lactation or the colour of a kid’s shit. If you do, we suggest you re-evaluate your notions of decorum, privacy and, possibly, humanity. Happy Father’s Day, gents. It’s on September 4, so remember to call the old man. And enjoy it, because you deserve it.
KIRK AND MICHAEL DOUGLAS, 1955