HOW TO SPOT A TOXIC TEACHER
AS BENEFICIAL AS A MENTOR CAN BE, IT CAN ALSO BE A DESTRUCTIVE RELATIONSHIP IF YOU FIND YOURSELF WITH A SHORT-TEMPERED NARCISSIST. WHEN THE MENTOR CONNECTION IS DYSFUNCTIONAL, IT’S BAD NEWS FOR BOTH PARTIES. True, some of the best mentors can indeed be arseholes. But if a mentor sees you as a personal slave to do their bidding, you’ve a big problem. Because they’re not in this for you.
They haven’t been around the block a few times, and they never attended the school of hard knocks. If your mentor is a little wet behind the ears, that’s a problem. A rookie will love the idea of mentoring someone. Sadly, they’ll lack the experience to make this a truly valuable endeavour.
This mentor loves the sound of their own voice, and will spend the time lecturing instead of asking questions that help you come to your own conclusions. You need someone who realises that learning is a neverending process.
This guy’s about as reliable as a $20 Rolex from a Shanghai back lane. They live life flying by the seat of their pants and – provided they actually turn up to your two o’clock – will encourage you to do the same.