CAN YOU BE A FIT CHICK?
How to embrace the identity of a ‘Fit Chick’
My sister Vicki visited me recently. She is an inspiring chick who I look up to and admire. She’s one of those people with a wide range of interests and skills. She’d been a gym-goer for many years, mainly enjoying cardio classes, but one thing she’s never really pursued, is weight training. She’d listen to me talk about it (out of love for me I think) but never interested in pursuing it.
But on this trip, she surprised me by asking me something I didn’t imagine I’d ever hear from her: ‘Kat, would you write me a weights program?’ Vicki had come to a realisation that even though she knew that weight training had benefits, having the knowledge about it and actually doing something about it are two different things. She has a petite build and she’d never thought of herself as having the potential to put on muscle or be physically ‘strong’.
We had a lot of really great conversations during our time together. We talked about how when she was younger, she didn’t think she could be one of those ‘gym chicks’ – and
just join a gym. Wasn’t that for other people? ‘Sporty’ people? Fit and strong and confident people? Is it really possible to put on muscle and change your body? Had she left it too late? (She’s 41). Who was she to think she could get buff and strong?
She’s intelligent and she knows the logical answers to these questions, but was exploring and embracing the reality of these answers for herself - and smashing through her perceived limitations.
She told me that in the past she had decided that she COULD be one of those ‘gym chicks’ - now she was deciding that she COULD also be strong. She was breaking through her own limiting mind-sets. I call these limiting mind-sets, Perceived
Invisible Boundaries (P.I.B’s). We build these boundaries for ourselves by creating limiting beliefs and making decisions out of beliefs that restrict us.
PERCEIVED INVISIBLE BOUNDARIES ARE OFTEN THE RESULT OF FEAR AND DOUBT: 1. Some of the common fears:
Fear of failure (often resulting in shame or disappointment)
Fear of success (and what that could mean)
Fear of the unknown
Fear of facing the truth about our fitness or strength
Fear of looking silly or inadequate
Fear of getting out of our comfort zone
Fear of being laughed at
2. Doubts that hold us back:
Doubting in our own ability to succeed
Doubting that we will be able to stick at something
Doubting that we have what it takes
Doubting that we can handle the pain or discomfort
Doubting that little quiet voice, encouraging us to go for it
That little voice encourages us to start taking action on the never-ending journey of improvement. The little voice is there because deep down, that part of us KNOWS we are destined for more. We are wired for growth and improvement, for change and moving forward, into all we can be in every area of our lives. Sometimes this means that we need to move beyond simply KNOWING something and begin APPLYING it to our life. By taking it
WE OFTEN IGNORE THAT LITTLE VOICE, BUT IT DOESN’T GO AWAY. IT WILL ALWAYS BE THERE
THE NIKE PHILOSOPY: IF YOU HAVE A BODY, YOU'RE AN ATHLETE'
on not only as a regular, habitual lifestyle, but as an IDENTITY.
Many of us wait for someone to give us permission to step up into a new area. Having that support and accountability is wonderful, but what if you could simply give yourself that permission? The fact is, you can!
Towards the end of Vicki’s visit, when I was preparing some healthy food for us, she said, ‘I want to write about what it’s like to be your sister’. I asked what she meant. She said, ‘you really do LIVE what you tell others to DO’. I laughed because I hadn’t really thought about it in that way. It’s just so normal for me to live a lifestyle of health and fitness. It’s part of who I am and who I’ve always been. I can’t imagine it any other way. But this choice can be made by anyone; to change the way they see themselves and to make a positive life change.
I love this philosophy. It cuts the ‘exclusivity’ out. I believe this idea can help us all think of ourselves as being fully in control of our bodies and how we choose to move them.
We are all on a journey in our health and fitness. Being fit or strong isn’t something you suddenly become one day. It’s something you work on over time, little by little, small decision by small decision.
I’m a ‘Fit Chick’. So is Vicki. And this identity is available to whoever wants to embrace it.