BUILD­ING YOUR LOVE PART 2

Five more of the top ten tips for build­ing love

Great Health Guide - - CONTENTS - Martin Glad­man

LOVE IS SOME­THING THAT CAN WE CHOOSE AND BUILD ON.

IN the Oc­to­ber is­sue of GHGTM, we pub­lished the first half of our Top Ten Tips for Build­ing Your Love, de­signed to sup­port you to build and en­joy your love. In this edi­tion, we wrap up the se­ries with the fi­nal five; we trust you have been en­joy­ing con­nect­ing to your own love over the last month.

The ways in which we can de­velop and build our love is end­less, but at the heart of it, it re­quires us to lov­ingly com­mit to it ev­ery day, as­sur­ing that ev­ery step of the way holds us in the truth of who we are. This sup­ports us to let go of any lies we might have bought into; the type of lies that say we’re not worth it, we don’t de­serve it or that for some rea­son, love is just not pos­si­ble for us. All bul­lock.

The fi­nal 5 tips have been put to­gether to sup­port you to fur­ther build and get to know the qual­ity of your own love.

6. AL­LOW YOUR­SELF TO BE LOVED.

Many of us strug­gle to gen­uinely love our­selves, let alone let some­one else truly love and see who we are – yet we so deeply pine for other peo­ple to love and adore us! The best rem­edy for this is to start to take the time to love our­selves through build­ing self-ap­pre­ci­a­tion into our day, to not judge our­selves against ideas or im­ages of how we should or shouldn’t be, just sim­ply ap­pre­ci­ate, choose love and let things un­fold with­out at­tach­ment. Then, when some­one comes along and sees all of who we are, it won’t be a shock or some­thing we ‘need’; it will be a con­fir­ma­tion of what we al­ready know and what we have al­ready built.

7. DON’T RE­STRICT IT TO JUST ONE PER­SON, GROUP OR THING.

Love is not some­thing that can be chan­nelled or bound to one per­son or thing. Love has no bound­aries or en­try rights, it doesn’t hold one less or more than an­other, it sim­ply loves and adores, equally. So what hap­pens then when we choose to re­strict our love to only one or a small group of peo­ple? Es­sen­tially, we cut our­selves off from the enor­mity of our love, re­strict­ing and mak­ing our­selves small. Now this is not a plea for polygamy! Open­ing our hearts to all, does not mean we share our bod­ies with them, it just means we love them

LOVE HAS NO BOUND­ARIES OR EN­TRY RIGHTS.

for who they are and what they are ca­pa­ble of. So con­nect to the things that you love in peo­ple, ap­pre­ci­ate their quirks, in­clud­ing your own. Don’t re­strict your love, let it be felt and seen by all.

8. DON’T GET CAUGHT UP IN EMO­TIONS.

True love is not a roller­coaster, it is steady, sta­ble and strong. Love is for­ever hold­ing and ap­pre­ci­at­ing of who and what we are, it’s not an emo­tional tur­moil. Many of us get caught up think­ing that love needs to be this re­ally big drama, so much so, that when we get of­fered the real thing, we strug­gle to ac­cept it and let it in fully. Love is filled with joy, still­ness, har­mony and truth, all very beau­ti­ful and ful­fill­ing things; it’s not filled with heart ache, pain, longing and guilt. Al­low your­self to find joy in the mun­dane and watch how love steadily flows through­out each and ev­ery part of your life, not just in spurts, ev­ery now and then.

9. MAKE IT A PRI­OR­ITY.

How many of us pri­ori­tise ev­ery­thing else other than be­ing lov­ing? We might pri­ori­tise watch­ing a movie over go­ing to bed de­spite our body telling us it’s time to rest; we might pri­ori­tise our chil­dren’s needs over our own or work­ing that ex­tra hour over­time when we could be out walk­ing or con­nect­ing with friends or fam­ily. Build­ing our love can start by sim­ply choos­ing a qual­ity of gen­tle­ness and re­spect and bring­ing it to all that we do, from the mo­ment we wake to the mo­ment we sleep – which in­cludes wash­ing our clothes and go­ing to work be­cause all these things sup­port us! It’s very lov­ing to do the chores. Make love your pri­or­ity and watch how your love comes back to you.

10. BE LOVE, DON’T WAIT FOR IT TO COME TO YOU.

And lastly, tip num­ber ten, be love. Live the love you are and the love you want to see in the world and make it un­con­di­tional, don’t wait for oth­ers to bring it to you, take the lead! Many of us wait for oth­ers to lead the way but this ul­ti­mately only leaves a world of peo­ple wait­ing, some­body has to step out and make the change, so why not let that be you?

And that rounds up our Top Ten Tips for Build­ing Your Love. If you missed the first round, go back to the pre­vi­ous edi­tion of GHGTM and check it out. At any time, we can start to build our love, so if you fall off the band­wagon, there’s no need to worry, just get back on! Choose your love in ev­ery mo­ment and then watch it build over­time.

LET YOUR LOVE LEAD THE WAY.

Martin Glad­man is a coun­sel­lor, teacher, life coach work­ing out of Mel­bourne. Vic­to­ria. Martin has had the plea­sure of sup­port­ing peo­ple of all ages, back­grounds and gen­ders to work through the many chal­lenges which can pre­vent them from liv­ing truly joy­ful and vi­tal lives. Martin can be con­tacted through his web­site.

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