Who you are is more im­por­tant than what you are in life

Great Health Guide - - CONTENTS - terry sid­ford

We’ve all heard the word ‘be­ing’ used reg­u­larly, but chances are we don’t re­ally know or think about what it means for our­selves. The def­i­ni­tion of ‘be­ing’ is: ‘Have life, have be­ing, ex­ist, live, be alive.’

The art of be­ing is ex­press­ing your state of be­ing, your essence, who you have been your whole life. This is the ‘Be­ing’ who feels deeply, who laughs, who cries, who smiles, who gets fired up about life and the things you love in life. But how much time do we ac­tu­ally spend ‘be­ing’ in the present and not think­ing about the past or fu­ture? In shed­ding some light on this sub­ject, I hope to point out a state that could re­veal a bet­ter way to ex­press who you are.

If we take time to ‘BE’ in present time and see, feel, lis­ten to our thoughts and feel our hearts, we would have a sense of who we are be­ing in that mo­ment. How­ever, for most of us, very

lit­tle of our time is spent in this present state. We have a choice ev­ery mo­ment of our lives about who we choose to ‘Be’. Wouldn’t it be a lot bet­ter to be who we are in­stead of who we think we should be or who some­one else thinks we should be?

I used to have a li­cense plate that said, ‘Just Be’ and peo­ple would of­ten ask me, ‘Just be what?’ With a smile I would think to my­self, ‘This can­not be ex­pressed, but ex­pe­ri­enced.’ I truly be­lieve that who you are be­ing is much more pow­er­ful than what you are do­ing in life. For in­stance, how many times have you heard peo­ple say that they are do­ing all the right things, but the re­sults are not what they want or re­flect who they are? They might want to start look­ing at who they are ‘be­ing’ first.

The im­pact you can make on your life and oth­ers is in pro­por­tion to who you are ‘be­ing’. You could have the so-called per­fect ca­reer, fam­ily and life, but not be­ing your­self will re­sult in con­se­quences that are not in align­ment with your true self and best life. I have ex­pe­ri­enced some ex­am­ples while coach­ing clients.

One client in par­tic­u­lar was very un­happy with her job. She felt that ev­ery­one was un­happy with their jobs and only com­plained. This did not make for a happy en­vi­ron­ment. She felt that her only choice was to find a new job. How­ever, fi­nances were an is­sue and did not al­low her the lux­ury of quit­ting un­til she found an­other job. To­gether, we im­ple­mented a plan that al­lowed her to start liv­ing and be­ing happy re­gard­less of what was hap­pen­ing around her.

We talked about who she was ‘be­ing’ when she was her best self. She dec­o­rated her of­fice with items to re­mind her who she wanted to ‘BE.’ Among them were a pic­ture of a sun, a beau­ti­ful plant and quotes that touched her soul. A few weeks passed and she re­ported that she was feel­ing happy and ful­filled again. Not only was she hap­pier, but also she noted that other em­ploy­ees were hap­pier as well. They com­mented on her new state of ‘be­ing’ and how that made a dif­fer­ence in their job.

Take time to look at who you are ‘be­ing’ in your life and if the re­sults are not what you want, per­haps you, too, should make a change from the inside out. Here are some sug­ges­tions to help you get started:

1. Set a re­minder on your phone at least five times dur­ing the day, to ac­tu­ally put down the phone (or step away from the com­puter screen) for a mo­ment and look to see what is around you. Breathe slower and deeper than nor­mal; no­tice how your body is feel­ing.


2. Try on dif­fer­ent ways of ‘be­ing’ around oth­ers. No­tice how you feel and when you feel more your­self.

3. No­tice how peo­ple re­act around you, then make a men­tal note if these are re­ac­tions you want.

4. Re­mem­ber a time when you felt your best and how you were feel­ing and act­ing. How did oth­ers re­act to you? If re­ac­tions were pos­i­tive, try to recre­ate those pre­vi­ous ac­tions and see if you can get sim­i­lar re­sults.

5. Cre­ate an en­vi­ron­ment that re­minds you of who you want to ‘BE’. This could be as sim­ple as post­ing a pic­ture of your­self at your best, a piece of jew­elry, or as elab­o­rate as re­dec­o­rat­ing your room, home or of­fice. My client painted the door from her garage to her home yel­low to re­mind her to shine her light.


Terry Sid­ford has been a cer­ti­fied life coach in the United States for the past 15 years and has as­sisted scores of peo­ple in achiev­ing their dreams, which she be­lieves is her own life’s pur­pose. More in­for­ma­tion is avail­able from her web­site.

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