SCHOOL HOLIDAYS ARE HERE. “YIPPEE!” SAY SOME PARENTS. “OMG!” SAY MANY OTHERS AS THEY START COUNTING THE SLEEPS UNTIL SCHOOL GOES BACK. WHY THE CONTRAST?
School holidays are absolutely a time to rest from the daily routines of school, work and all that comes with the day-to-day demands of life. And away, play dates and more, holidays can also Unstructured time, change in the daily routine and free time are welcomed by many, but not by all. An all-too common story at Fabic is parents at their wit’s end, meltdowns occurring (from children and parents alike) and an overall unpleasant experience for all concerned due to the lack of structure that holidays can bring. At Fabic, we understand that all unwanted behaviour is preceded by anxiety, as clearly stated in the Body Life Skills program (visit www.bodylifeskills.com). We also understand that “Anxiety is a result of a person not feeling equipped to deal with what is in front of them” as quoted by Serge Benhayon. So what is it about holidays that some may not perceive they have the required skills to respond to? What is it about unstructured time, change in daily routine and free time that triggers people’s anxiety, thus triggering unwanted behaviours? When a person’s life follows a routine, there is typically a sense of purpose to each moment as well as a clear expectation of what is expected from them now and next in their life. Routines and structure allow for all to predict and thus feel equipped for what is in front of them and what is next. Lack of structure, change in routine and free time typically are void of these clear expectations and sense of purpose. Some people have developed the skills to bring clear structure previous routine is not current and bring a sense TIPS FOR GETTING THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS • Ensure everyone has a clear picture of what is
happening now and next in their life. • Support people to develop the skills to bring a
sense of purpose to every moment. • Holidays are a great time to learn life skills not typically taught in school. Think meal preparation, shopping, budgeting, scheduling, social skills etc. • supporting our body to be ready for the next day, week, year ahead. • Use visual schedules to bring a new structure and routine to each day. At the beginning of the holidays collect a list of all the ‘to dos’ for the holidays but at the end of each day, bring a See right for an example of a visual schedule. It is out with your children at the end of each day/week in preparation for the next day/week etc. This example provides structure and a sense of purpose to a previously unstructured day, providing all with the same picture. Remember, there is a potential learning opportunity in every moment. Identifying and activity brings a sense of purpose to each and every moment. When people have a sense of purpose, there is absolutely no time for issues to be created.