DO YOU SPEND TOO MUCH TIME WOR­RY­ING ABOUT THE KIDS, THE FAM­ILY, THE HOME. PAR­ENT­ING GUILT CAN REAR ITS HEAD AT CRAZY TIMES OF THE DAY AND THE IM­POR­TANT THING TO RE­MEM­BER IS THERE ARE STRATE­GIES TO OVER­COME IT. HERE’S HOW…

Haven Magazine - - Front Page -

We wake up in the mid­dle of the night with a fright, think­ing we’ve for­got­ten to col­lect the chil­dren, or haven’t put their soc­cer boots in their bag. What are we think­ing? We know it’s a dream-like state and slowly sink back into our al­pha zone of bliss. Next we’re in­ter­rupted with What would it be like for Johnny to be with­out boots?’ and ‘Would we be awarded the worst par­ent badge?’. We tell our­selves, ‘Goooo to sleep’. Try as we may, we are still in­ter­rupted by thoughts. Next it’s an­other thing: The birth­day party - we can only keeps play­ing in our heads, which is crazy be­cause So, what are we do­ing to our­selves? Guilt screams out loud and clear and hisses through our eardrums as if we have tin­ni­tus. Want to scream? Know the feel­ing? All we want to do is snoooooooze be­fore the day jumps into re­peat mode any minute. Par­ent guilt is real and feels like we had just fallen asleep. Feet hit the ground run­ning and the crazy chaotic on­slaught com­mences. Ev­ery­one gets ready to be at school and work. Lunches are made, bags packed and stress lev­els in­crease when chil­dren strug­gle out of calm and col­lected. Fi­nally back in the car, we sigh We sit, do­ing our best to bring our­selves back to cen­tre then stare out the win­dow. It feels like we’ve done a day’s work. Clos­ing our eyes we prac­tice breath­ing tech­niques (we know they again; aware of the con­stant worry of how a test will go for one child and a les­son for an­other. We are be­ing the best par­ents we can be and do­ing an ex­cep­tional job. We care, sup­port, love, cher­ish, teach, ex­plain, nur­ture and have loads of laughs with our chil­dren. In do­ing so, we of­ten for­get about our­selves. We make sure ev­ery­one’s needs are met be­fore we con­sider our needs. Add these: house cleaned, wash­ing done, win­dows

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