THE TWEEN YEARS PROVIDE MELTDOWNS FOR MANY AND ANXIETY ALL ROUND - BUT WHY IS THIS SO?
It might be hard to see sometimes, but at the core of our tweens is an awesome, amazing and lovable being - and not the monster that they often portray. So what happens? How do we go from awesome being to monster behaviour? The simple answer is anxiety. Anxiety is the precursor to all unwanted behaviour. Let me explain further… According to Serge Benhayon, “Anxiety occurs when a person does not feel equipped to respond to what’s in front of them.” To understand further, anxiety is what comes from our tween’s body. It is their words, behaviours, thoughts and feelings that are simply communicating there is something in front of them they do not feel completely equipped to respond to. Not feeling equipped equals perceived lack of skill. What’s in front of you equals life. Thus in simplicity, when our tween is exhibiting unwanted behaviours, we must simply ask, “I wonder what part of life my tween has been presented with that they do not perceive they have all the required skills to respond to?”. Life starts to change for our tweens. They come into this ‘in-between phase’. They are no longer children, but they are also not yet adults. They are a little bit in ‘no man’s land’ which is right where ‘tween land’ exists.
LIFE PRESENTS US WITH THESE LESSONS:
Their expectations of life, that are either selfimposed or imposed on by others, start to change The world starts to feel different Different responsibilities have been offered