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www.majorconfident.com So I’m hearing all these crazy holiday ideas at the moment. Mums taking off and going on holidays without their families. Parents leaving their kids at home and going overseas without their kids. According to psychology professor Dr Nava Silton, it’s really important for mothers to be rejuvenated and refreshed (insert eye roll, yawn and loud huffing noise). She adds that taking the time out to make sure our own needs are met is actually beneficial for our kids (it sounds like Dr Silton lives in a completely different world to me, a world where she could probably take a pee by herself without a toddler trying to peek under the door). Thanks for your time, Doc - but I choose to disagree. I simply couldn’t leave my children and go on holiday: a) I can’t afford a holiday, b) I don’t have anywhere to leave them and, c) even if point a and b were sorted, I would simply die from Mummy Guilt and end up crying after two hours and go home. I love what Jennifer Garner posted online recently. She was getting ready for the school holidays and took a photo of herself looking prepared and professional - holding a piece of paper that said ‘Fun Summer Ideas’ - underneath the caption ‘Moms: First day of Summer’. The photo next to it was of her covered in blood on the set of her newest film, Peppermint, and was captioned #backtoschool #iwillmissthembut... and #godblessteachers. Good luck these school holidays - I wish you the best as you start off fresh with great outdoor ideas, lists of things to do, fresh play-doh and textas. I’ll see you on the other side, as we slowly let screen time stretch out a bit more each day, reach for the wine a little earlier and start the mental countdown to October 8.
BE A FUN MUM BLOGGER
www.beafunmum.com I am sitting at the dining room table as I type this. The younger children are watching Bondi Vet while my husband and our eldest are huddled over a computer on the loungeroom floor, discussing her biology assignment. Our eldest recently celebrated her 17th birthday and that means my husband has been a father for the same time. With Father’s Day recently done and dusted for another year, I was curious to ask him what the day meant to him and what he appreciates most about being a father. He explained that being a father to him means the privilege of loving and taking care of his family. This brings him a lot of satisfaction, he said. The day itself isn’t very important. Sure, he enjoys breakfast in bed and receiving a new set of handmade cards to pin up in his office. However, at the heart of it, fatherhood is about service and love to his family, not his family giving him stuff. I was rather humbled at his response. It reinforced how beautiful a partnership can be, when two people commit to each other, make it work and create a life together. Our children are part of that. It’s the day-to-day moments of our life that mean so much. It’s when I intentionally include my husband in family life, even when he’s not around. It’s when my husband sends a special message for the kids if he can’t make it to an event. It’s expressing how much I appreciate him. It’s when he throws himself into homework with the children after a long day at work. These currents – from me, from him, from our children – make family life meaningful and beautiful. You have to hang on to these things sometimes when times are rough! After 17 years of parenting, I realise they matter so much.
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