Healthy Mama - - Lifestyle - By Scar­lett Hyde from White Glove Ser­vices

In­tu­ition is all about turn­ing in­ward and fo­cus­ing on see­ing with­out our eyes. In this med­i­ta­tion, you will be guided to look in­ward and see what needs to be seen that is be­yond the phys­i­cal. Vi­sion and in­sight can be al­lowed to ex­pand with the help of this med­i­ta­tion. key words to fo­cus on: wis­dom, in­sight, vi­sion.

Preg­nancy is such a per­sonal ex­pe­ri­ence and women com­plete the ever so long 40-week jour­ney in so many dif­fer­ent ways.

Start­ing from the mo­ment those 2 tiny lines ap­pear and you:

a. Hy­per­ven­ti­late on the floor,

b. Jump around squeal­ing in joy,

c. Hys­ter­i­cally cry and think “HOW ON EARTH DID THIS HAP­PEN?”

d. breathe re­lief, you have tried so hard for so long and all you can do is stare in dis­be­lief that this month/year – it fi­nally worked !!!!!!

We have all read generic ar­ti­cles about preg­nancy “How to keep your preg­nancy glow post baby” or “what to ex­pect when you’re ex­pect­ing” - but the truth is - even though there are def­i­nite symp­toms of preg­nancy that a lot of us ex­pe­ri­ence, no two preg­nan­cies are the same be­cause no two women are the same. I’ve taken to the moth­ers of Aus­tralia to find out about their per­sonal ex­pe­ri­ences and you may be quite sur­prised.

One story that came into my inbox that re­ally touched me & I want to tell you about first, it was so bru­tally hon­est and full of raw emo­tion, it made me re­al­ize that while 80% of us go on to en­joy weak blad­ders, baby brain and swollen bel­lies, 20% of women ex­pe­ri­ence mis­car­riage. Early or late term mis­car­riages can be ab­so­lutely dev­as­tat­ing but one that’s not so com­monly spo­ken about is a “Missed Mis­car­riage”, this is where your body doesn’t rec­og­nize the baby has passed and all those glo­ri­ous preg­nancy symp­toms are still in full swing. It’s not un­til your next scan you re­al­ize there is no flicker of a heart beat on the ul­tra­sound and there will be no happy end­ing to your jour­ney. Mourn­ing your loss is in­evitable and mov­ing for­ward seems im­pos­si­ble, and yet 1 in 4 women have to face this re­al­ity ev­ery sin­gle day.

Here is one woman’s “missed Mis­car­riage” story

At 6 weeks 5 days I had my first ul­tra­sound, two chil­dren in tow all ex­cited to see their baby brother or sis­ter we found a sack no baby…no big deal I thought, I was told as long as I haven’t bled and had no pain I’m safe, so off we went.

Two weeks later my se­cond ul­tra­sound (my chil­dren and I are on hol­i­days vis­it­ing fam­ily), we are off to see this beau­ti­ful heart­beat that I had ex­plained to my son and daugh­ter, now 4 and 3 years old.

I ex­pected to see this gor­geous ‘peanut’ bounc­ing around like my other two had done at 9 weeks ges­ta­tion. Twenty min­utes later, we had found out that our gor­geous third ‘peanut’ had passed away. Telling my hus­band the sad news over the phone and ex­plain­ing to my chil­dren why they couldn’t see this lit­tle flicker of a heart beat was the most heart­break­ing mo­ment for my­self. The four of us had to grieve to­gether.

As a par­ent I had to ex­plain, at an age ap­pro­pri­ate level what had hap­pened. My di­ag­no­sis was a ‘missed mis­car­riage’; my body hadn’t rec­og­nized the loss, which meant “med­i­cal in­ter­ven­tion” was my only op­tion. Six­teen days later, I took three tiny pills to make my body re­lease my baby. The emo­tions and thoughts that I went through, I pray I never feel them again.

While some­times preg­nancy is filled with strug­gle and loss, 80% of preg­nan­cies go onto to have happy end­ings and funny mo­ments along the way, here are a few in­ci­dents that have hap­pened to other Aus­tralian Mums –

Baby Brain strikes again!

I was in a hurry one day, and weeks away from de­liv­ery… I left the house to take my son to school and run a few er­rands. It wasn’t un­til the cashier at the mar­ket said, ‘Did you know you have a towel on your head?’ I then re­al­ized I hadn’t done my hair af­ter a shower. I had gone to 2 other places like that be­fore some­one said some­thing!

I de­frosted a big lot of ba­con dur­ing a 4am crav­ing. I cooked half and thought I put the rest in the fridge. The next day I go to cook my­self a big ba­con sand­wich and I get a plate out of the cup­board and there's the ba­con... Sit­ting in the cup­board not in the fridge.

Awk­ward Mo­ments

I was quite small be­fore my preg­nancy. So it wasn’t un­til I was 30 weeks preg­nant that I fi­nally had a belly. I would quite of­ten knock things off the ta­ble/shelf/any­thing that was level with my belly. This was my first child and I of­ten for­got my belly was there. One day I was go­ing through the end check­out (where they have rail­ing to sep­a­rate the check­out from the en­try) as I went to pay I went to walk be­tween the rail­ing & my trol­ley ... I got stuck!! I tried to squish through like it wasn't a prob­lem but got even more stuck. The look the lady at the check­out gave me was one of which, she'd never had that hap­pen be­fore & I hadn't ei­ther. I tried to use the eft­pos ma­chine with the trol­ley stuck in the middle (try­ing not to hold other cus­tomers up). I had to try to pull my­self up the height of the rail­ing to get out. I was so em­bar­rassed, but was more wor­ried about if bub was in­jured as I was re­ally squished. When our baby was born a week later, I no­ticed he had like a lit­tle dint in his head & I al­ways won­dered - was that the trol­ley?

Emo­tional roller­coaster

I thought, “this baby must have a great deal of hair”, as I’ve heard you get heart­burn from a baby with hair. As it turns out, it was the 4 liters of or­ange or ap­ple juice I craved a day. I was sick my whole preg­nancy. I couldn't be­lieve when peo­ple would say "so how long till the next one". My re­ac­tion was, no way am I hav­ing an­other, I don't know how other ladies can do this to them­selves over & over. It wasn't till my baby was about 6 months old that I re­al­ized...hmm peo­ple must have other ba­bies to en­ter­tain the first.

One night, late in my preg­nancy – you know, the un­com­fort­able stage where you can’t sleep and it feels as though the baby is kick­ing through your stom­ach & us­ing the mat­tress as a tram­po­line. I was watch­ing TV and a Kleenex ad came on star­ring the cutest Labrador puppy – the dog was so adorable I started to cry, I then woke my hus­band up to show him the adorable puppy and when he showed no in­ter­est in a puppy on TV at 2am I then cried hys­ter­i­cally – that night I cried for 4 hours straight over the puppy’s cute­ness and my hus­band’s lack of in­ter­est.

Em­bar­rass­ing & Nat­u­ral End­ings

On my wed­ding day when they brought out the cake I em­bar­rass­ingly threw up ev­ery­where. The rest of the preg­nancy was semi nor­mal (be­sides my boobs chang­ing color and then the amount of stretch marks that ap­peared) af­ter that and then due date ar­rived. I am a very pri­vate shy per­son and lucky for me, my hus­band has a good sense of hu­mor. He had never seen me ever go to the toi­let and to my hor­ror I was sit­ting on the loo in the middle of con­trac­tions at 8cm di­lated do­ing the big­gest poo with him there. We have never laughed to­gether so much (even though I was so sore and had no drugs) it was just so funny and one our most mem­o­rable mo­ments.

One thing we must re­mem­ber, is that de­spite the con­stant and on­go­ing parental de­bates of, what to eat vs what not to eat, breast­feed­ing vs bot­tle, nat­u­ral birth vs cae­sarean, puree vs lead wean­ing – we all must be a lit­tle kin­der to not only our­selves but each other be­cause no mat­ter how your preg­nancy jour­ney went or how it ended – we all sur­vived, we all gave birth and all en­tered the won­der­ful world of par­ent­hood.

P.S: If you have suf­fered a loss, early or late term, it is im­por­tant to speak about it, and seek sup­port. There is a ded­i­cated web­site and hot­line for Mis­car­riages, still­birth and new­born death sup­port (in Aus­tralia). and hot­line num­ber is 1300 072637. Please find the sup­port net­work in your coun­try.

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