If you have a teenager, please sit them down and make them watch this
IWAS a little worried about what I was putting into the DVD player with the title of this, but at the risk of sounding like one of those alarmist promos for Today Tonight and A Current Affair, this really is one show every parent should watch.
It addresses one of our major taboos— teenagers and sex— and underlines the point that if you’re not teaching your kids about sex, they’re learning it somewhere else.
And these days, that place is pornography.
A British survey found that 30 per cent of kids are learning about sex from porn, with the average age to first view it just 11 years old.
And we’re talking hardcore porn, too.
Some of the sex acts the teenagers say they’ve seen is disturbing . . . and the warped attitudes they’re picking up about the opposite sex and what ‘‘ normal’’ bodies look like are just ghastly.
The show heads to Sheringham High School in Norfolk for this special, where one-third of the students are already having sex.
They bring in five extraordinarily brave models, who parade naked for the kids amid not as many giggles as you’d expect.
The boys seemed shocked by the natural appearance of the women. It seems they do not look like the bodies they see on the internet.
‘‘ They don’t look normal,’’ one boy says of a set of unenhanced boobs. The normal he’s referring to are the fake ones he sees online.
But it is the impact porn is having on the teenage girls that is most troubling. Four out of five girls are unhappy with their breasts, and 20 per cent say they would consider implants.
The number of times girls talked about what boys would like is truly worrying.
‘‘ They prefer that so you kind of want to make them happy, do what they want you to do, so you don’t put them off,’’ one girl says about getting a Brazilian wax.
‘‘ You feel the pressure to change to impress boys.’’
It’s a concern that seems well-founded after one boy proudly states ‘‘ I would tell her to get rid of it’’ — if he dated a girl who was au naturale downstairs.
If you have a teenager, please sit them down and make them watch this.
Sex conversations are never easy, but this is an issue that clearly needs to be discussed. show host Anna Richardson.