Finding your mummy best friend with Bindy Scott
Motherhood – isn’t it wonderful? And exhausting, but exhaustingly wonderful!
Do you know what I think makes it that little bit better? Mumma friends. Those friends who have kids but love your kids just like they love their own, who have similar parenting ideals (or maybe they don’t) but they just accept you – for you.
I believe every mum needs at least one amazing best mumma friend – someone you can talk to about anything without judgment, ask advice from, laugh and cry with, feel comfortable asking for help from and just know she absolutely gets and values you.
I am lucky enough to have a friend like this. I met her in our ante-natal class before both our daughters were born, so we’ve been friends for about four years.
In the world of mummy groups and forums, it is hard to wade through the judgment and 1000 different opinions on what you should and shouldn’t be doing to find someone who gets you.
But when you do – you find your motherhood soulmate – it’s good.
So how do you connect with another mum?
You have to put yourself out there. It is almost like dating, you have to be out there.
Go to the ante-natal class, playgroups, mothers’ groups, accept the playdate invite. Sometimes you need to try a few different places before you find one you click with, but don’t give up. Find your person. She is out there and she needs you as much as you need her.
Companionship is vital for parents, especially stay-at-home mums. We can feel isolated and out of touch. I feel it is so incredibly important to have at least one person that keeps you sane with the validating “me too” response and the camaraderie we often need in parenthood.
Friends enrich our lives, but having a best friend during motherhood – she can be your lifesaver.