Find­ing your mummy best friend with Bindy Scott

Highfields' Own - - Contents - BY BINDY SCOTT, MODERNWIFELIFE31 BLOG­GER

Hello friends!

Moth­er­hood – isn’t it won­der­ful? And ex­haust­ing, but ex­haust­ingly won­der­ful!

Do you know what I think makes it that lit­tle bit bet­ter? Mumma friends. Those friends who have kids but love your kids just like they love their own, who have sim­i­lar par­ent­ing ideals (or maybe they don’t) but they just ac­cept you – for you.

I be­lieve ev­ery mum needs at least one amaz­ing best mumma friend – some­one you can talk to about any­thing with­out judg­ment, ask ad­vice from, laugh and cry with, feel com­fort­able ask­ing for help from and just know she ab­so­lutely gets and val­ues you.

I am lucky enough to have a friend like this. I met her in our ante-natal class be­fore both our daugh­ters were born, so we’ve been friends for about four years.

In the world of mummy groups and fo­rums, it is hard to wade through the judg­ment and 1000 dif­fer­ent opin­ions on what you should and shouldn’t be do­ing to find some­one who gets you.

But when you do – you find your moth­er­hood soul­mate – it’s good.

So how do you con­nect with an­other mum?

You have to put your­self out there. It is al­most like dat­ing, you have to be out there.

Go to the ante-natal class, play­groups, moth­ers’ groups, ac­cept the play­date in­vite. Some­times you need to try a few dif­fer­ent places be­fore you find one you click with, but don’t give up. Find your per­son. She is out there and she needs you as much as you need her.

Com­pan­ion­ship is vi­tal for par­ents, es­pe­cially stay-at-home mums. We can feel iso­lated and out of touch. I feel it is so in­cred­i­bly im­por­tant to have at least one per­son that keeps you sane with the val­i­dat­ing “me too” re­sponse and the ca­ma­raderie we of­ten need in par­ent­hood.

Friends en­rich our lives, but hav­ing a best friend dur­ing moth­er­hood – she can be your life­saver.

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