Choose your future
If you’re stuck in the past, you’re missing out on the present
AT TIMES it can be easy for us to dwell on the past, focusing on all of the ‘negative’ things. We look for all of the occasions when we feel things have gone wrong or didn’t go how we wanted them to, when we or others have or haven’t done or could have/should have done better and we can
get overwhelmed by the what ifs and if onlys. Is that you? While it is good to reflect on the past and all that has led us
to where we are today, if we spend too long ruminating on the “bad” stuff it can lead to ongoing distraction, regret, resentment, anger and potentially depression. As a result we reinforce our emotional memory of the events and maintain connection to all those things that cause hurt and
Everything in life helps us learn. Yet, sometimes, we don’t
heed the lessons that are offered and have to have them repeated until we do learn. Sometimes we get so attached to and absorbed in our past that we find it impossible to see a future. I picture it as a person who is looking backwards but walking
forwards, which can be dangerous but also means that we are missing out on two major things.
The first is being present, enjoying and making the most of the here and now and taking one step at a time. The second is that we miss moments of delight and opportunities along the way to see things differently, make changes and take a new approach. We all consciously understand that we cannot change the past or any of what has happened to us or others.
But we can change our view of it and shift our perception. So I suggest it’s time to consider which way you are looking.
If you find yourself ruminating on the past then maybe it is time to turn around look towards the future.
There is a lovely quote by John Schaar who is a futurist: “The future is not some place we are going to but one we are
creating. The paths to it are not found but made and the making of them changes both the maker and the destination.”
The paths to (the future) are not found but made and the making of them changes both the maker and the destination.
The question to ask ourselves is “What future would I like to
It’s important to become clear about what we do want and
then use the past as our reference for learning and the present as our point to start afresh; our future then becomes a result of the choices we make, moving towards what we want.
Past, present and future: It’s time to make a decision about where your focus is.