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for good things in every situation
We find in life what we look for.
If you ask yourself, “What do I HATE about my job, my stupid husband and my life?”, you will find things to be unhappy about. If you ask yourself, “What do I LIKE about my job, my husband and my life?” you will find things to be happy about.
Look for good things in every situation. You say, “Average people don’t make a habit of looking for good things!” Correct. Joyful people aren’t average.
Your happiness depends on where you put your focus.
one day at a time
Many people spend their lives regretting the past and fearing the future, but you can’t fix the past and fearing the future doesn’t help.
Guess what… your present moment is usually quite okay! Unless you are having a heart attack or being eaten by a bear, the present moment is usually fine. It is the imaginary future that drives you nuts … “How will I survive if? What will happen if? What will people say?”
You conquer worry by dragging your mind back to the present moment. You remind yourself, “Right this second I have everything I need.”
There is only one place you can be happy – and that is in the present. Focus on what you can do today. Do your best until bedtime. That’s enough.
Stop moaning about the weather, the government and your arthritis.
We TALK about what we THINK about. That is obvious. The reverse is also true. We THINK about what we TALK about.
The more you complain, the more you fill your head with unhappy thoughts.
If you want to talk about fixing a problem, wonderful! But mindless complaining sabotages your happiness – and no one cares that you didn’t sleep last night and no one wants to hear about your haemorrhoid operation.
Attitude is everything. For example, imagine two women, Mary and Jane. Both get divorced. Mary says, “I’ve failed. My life is over.” Jane says, “My life has just begun!” Who will blossom?
In a nutshell, it’s not what happens to you that matters most; it’s how you think about what happens to you. Ultimately, your happiness is in your hands. n
Andrew Matthews is an internationally renowned speaker and best-selling author of Follow Your Heart and Happiness in Hard Times, which have sold over 7 million copies in 42 languages. His latest book is How Life Works, published by Seashell Publishers.